turtle32 Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Ok please bare with me not real good at typing. Here is my problem hope someone can help. I met a woman on a christian site back in janurary we started talking on the phone and then we started meeting i have visted her and she me. She lives next to Chicago and i live in a small rural town in kentucky. We have fell in love with each other and she sayes she likes it here knows it will be a big chnage from where she is . She was here last week and wanted me to look at houses with her in a bigger town close to me she was thinking on moving here first to see if she liked it and i encourgaed her. i cant move i have two small children she has none and my job is very good so right now i cant move i have told her i would whne my children get in college i wouldnt mind moving to her town. So she has been telling me that she is confused about her feelings on moving here and she is really struggling about me having two kids and if she can handle becoming a parent i can understand that moving here leaving her family and her job she is a hair stylist and makes good money and has a good clientle build up but she sayes she loves me a lot and she has talked about us getting married and she could see me being her husband bust she is confused and gets anxious about the kids and living here and turning life upside down and i know it would be a hrad decsion we love each other and love being with each other and i hate to lose her . I just think we sould at least try and maybe move here for a couple months and see how it goes i hate the thought of us loving each other and walking away because of feelings and the unknown i feel like we will always have to live with what if. So what should i do i fel helpless i cant really do anything ifeel like does anyone have any suggestions on how we could maybe make it work that im not thinking about . thanks for your help.
chryssy83 Posted July 10, 2007 Posted July 10, 2007 Maybe moving is a little premature right now...if she's not sure about some of the big things in your life it might be a good idea to take things more slowly and continue with the visits and stuff rather than having one of you give up everything "for a couple of months to see how it goes."
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