nasdxxx Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Ive been best friends with this guy since childhood. we always did many things together apart from dating and we have been close since. He now leaves overseas and has just gotten out of a relation, while i was also getting out of an abusive relationship as well. We meet recently when he was back home on holiday and we both realised we have very strong feelings for eachother. we both seem to be on the same page about having a serious relationship given the closeness of both our families and our history. Our families were close and lived near eachother. He plans to come back after college after one year... However its been two months but i have strong feelings that overwhelm me and confuse me at the same time. I feel like we have always been dating. Sometimes i find myself continuing to be very open to him about things just like i used too when he was still just my bestfriend... Sometimes i feel like waht i tell him, is kind of rushing him.... Is this real love or rebound love... He seems to be in the same situation because we both just cant stop talking about when we can be together again and start a family, and how we will raise children, how they will look like... I am lost on whether i am alraedy loving too much.... and how i can suppress some of these feelings because i realise that we are now dating and not just best friends... I fear that i could ned up suffocating him.... The feeling is mutual and very strong.... But i feel like i am over flowing with mine Is this real love
Author nasdxxx Posted July 17, 2007 Author Posted July 17, 2007 Hi, what would you do if for some reason you feel that you have suffocated someone in a new relationship, and confused him with many different feelings, that he withdraws because he is nolonger sure whether you want the relationship or not? This is more like the situation i am in, with a new relationship and unfortunately, we can only communicate via email, phone call or text message. Do i clear the mess and get straight with him about my feelings or i let the dust settle first somebody talk to me
jcster Posted July 17, 2007 Posted July 17, 2007 Let the dust settle. He's probably just as overwhelmed as you are. And, even though you've been good friends, you still have a lot to learn about each other. Step back and give each other some air - and then you might be able to tell if it's a rebound or not. You say that you recently got out of an abusive relationship? One of the hallmarks of an abusive relationship is the drama attached to it. Everthing is up or down, emotions run strong. You probably need to recalibrate your emotional meter, and put it at a normal setting for this relationship. Avoid drama, give each other some space and it will work out.
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