Amraam Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 I hate getting dumped over the phone. I find this exceedingly impersonal; I rather have a stupid text message instead. What’s worse than not getting a straight answer after 40 minutes... So we started dating recently late April and hit it off immediately. Originally we met in a public speaking community college class hybrid online class (Don’t ask) and shared a dislike for our teacher. The biggest obstacle is that we both live with our parents and were separated by a 40 minute drive. Anyhow, we took turns driving over and seeing each other. I was immediately attracted and smitten, yet over this relatively short period I got past that and really grew to love her, I mean the feeling that you go the whole 9 yards for. I hate smokers but I didn’t care when I was with her, I could spend hours letting her describe her crappy day at work, I mean I felt I’ll go hell for her. I genuinely felt that she really liked me and I made her happy. Fast forward 2 months to this past week. Her brother and his g/f fly in from out of state. She is a the middle of three sisters and is very close with her family. So they all hang out a lot and have lots to talk about and reminence. So I was kinda left out not saying much since we all hung out. Unfortunately I guess my quitness/akwardness did not make a good impression. Friday we all went to see her brother's friend play at a concert. I left since she was driving her bro around and she couldn’t really hang out with me. That night she calls me to say the relationship has run its course, and we were simply two different people so she walked away from me. Heck she even said it wasn’t me but her, all the while saying what a great guy I am. And we haven’t talked since. So I was actually more surprised than realize what is going on. I don’t even think it sank in yet cause I was making plans to go places and all a few days ago. Kinda like watching japenese TV I guess, your more like WTF is this? So here are my theories, 1) She is influenced by her family that I dont fit in with them, she values there word and really looks up to them so they overrule any of her feelings. She told me that they provided an objective perspective. She is 20. 2) She is in love with the singer of her brothers friend's band- who happens to be a true rocker that is very funny to hang out with yet a outspoken player who states he doesnt ever want a girlfriend again after his ex got pregnant (I really hope he isnt saying that to put up the fantasy tame the bad boy challenge subconsciously for her because dam that would be smooth). Apparently they hung out the week before and talked to midnight, but they have only been friend before. I know I cant compete with him but I think here is the strongest argument for her to drop me. 3) Genuinely did not like me that much all along, yet was too nice to break it off earlier and I suck at reading her signals. Hey who doesn’t like free food? 4) I Dont consider myself a social idiot but maybe this week I outright lost her by my actions of lack of them and she want better? 5) She is to busy, ie Just not that in to me. I hate being called great but at the same time obviously am not that great. Ok any thoughts, comments?
funkybassplayer Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Yes let her walk one way and you the other! Dont even try to work it out, she doesnt care, and the longer your thinking about the why's, the harder it gets. Dont contact her, let her be and you start to heal and move on. You will not get any answers from her nelive me. Stay away from myspace/phone/email/text. Look after you, and youl move on fast from this.
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