larrysb Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 I'm 17 and this certain girl is younger. I've gone on a couple dates with this girl. The first went well, the second one... things could've been better. Her friend ended up coming with us later in the evening and a few other friends stopped by while we were in a park. Things were awkward between us after that. I was upset w/ her for bringing her friends, she felt sorry and bad; wanted to make it up to me. I apologized for getting upset, she said it was alright. I called her house the next evening to talk, but her sister said she wasn't home. I called the next day and her father picked up and said the same. I ended up seeing her a few days later when we talked and she still seemed interested, all the signs were there. She was flirting as usual, giving me compliments, glancing at me, and other times acting like I'm not there. But I've been unsure of asking her out again. I still feel something is a little different. I know she has been in some bad relationships and really thought I was a great guy and liked me a lot, and vice versa. Whenever we parted we would always hug, but recently she hasn't seemed to "gone in" for one. I think she is still a little uneasy about our last date, or thinks that I am. I'm worried that I've messed things up because I didn't take the initiative to not let her bring her friend along, rather than confront her after the date about it. Thoughts on what's going on?
Brioli Posted July 11, 2007 Posted July 11, 2007 Hmmmm...Well wanting to bring her friends along can mean one of two things in my opinion. 1. She was too nervous to be with you alone (which is probably the most likely) 2. She really wanted to hang with her friends and didn't want to disappoint you. Now I do have a problem with you saying that you called her 2 times and her family said she was not home? Is that correct? If so, that doesn't mean anything.... I mean do you really believe her family is lying to you, and if so, why do you believe that? I also think that you should be completely open and honest. I think you should tell her you like her, and that you would like to go out again. I think you should let her bring her friends along if that makes her more comfortable with you. (Ask her why she feels the need to invite her friends, and go from there). You guys are at the age, where your still figuring out how the opposite sex works. The best way to find out is to be upfront, ask questions, and be honest about how you feel and what you want. Be confident about it too, so she won't think you are some doofus..lol! You owe it to yourself and her to just find out what's going on. Don't be nervous about hearing what you don't want to hear...because wouldn't you rather know then be in the dark? The truth hurts sometimes, but its for our own good You might be surprised, she might feel that she messed things up too by bringing her friends and she may feel all nervous and messed up about it. Good luck and keep us posted
Author larrysb Posted July 18, 2007 Author Posted July 18, 2007 goin out again friday. =) we haven't hung out other than seeing each other a few times/calling on the phone for almost 3 weeks now... so I'm kinda worried how things are going to be, or how I should act.
Tyra Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 I agree with Brioli. Well besides when she said that she was probably nervous to be around you, if you two went on a date once before. But you have to remember, she is younger. So her mind isn't quite on your level. So when you do approach her, don't be ignorant, rude,and out of the way. You Know? She may not be ready to talk about the incident quite as yet.
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