doiask42much Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 How long were you with your ex, McFadden? I haven't read any of your other posts about him to be able to relate. Maybe some background on him could give us other posters some perspective--if you want someone other than Nemo to answer.
Nemo Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Oh God now I am getting upset again. It is too bad that relationship couldn't have lasted.. Please don't be sad. Sometimes there is no other way to figure out what love is all about. When you meet the right person, these experiences will all fall into place. And help keep you together.
Author McFadden Posted July 9, 2007 Author Posted July 9, 2007 I was only going out with him for 6 months and it apparently took longer than that for me to even move on at all (its around 7 1/2 months since the break up, been in NC). I have been posting about it lately because it was starting to bother me that I wasn't getting over it, as it had been a long time. But now it started going away and it seems like a dot on the horizon or something already. I didn't really care if anyone cares but I felt like writing about it and I can't really tell my friends since they don't know the situation. I'm aware that I can't jump over to some random guy who has a girlfriend and is weird but I think the important thing is I have realized my ex will not be the last person I have feelings for. It just seems like nothing is a big, life ruining deal anymore.
tinke Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 i doubt that it would benefit you to inform your ex of your agony, i doubt he would care. the thing is...he left, he had his reasons, what good would it do to announce your pain to him? although your new situation sounds self-destructive (sorry), i DO understand that ultimate joy when others are once again appealing, attractive, etc. it is pure relief to know that you CAN feel for someone else again, have desires, etc. also, it is very uplifting not to have the ex on your mind , i'm sure it is very alluring to focus on someone else you have new feelings for...do be careful...tread gently, so as not to expect a relationship as he is already involved with someone else. take care...congrats on your new feelings!!!
doiask42much Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 From other posts I got the impression you are pretty young? Not to lessen the significance of the relationship you had, but you will have many better things ahead of you, and I think you know that. 7.5 months for 6 months is pretty long, given that the rule of thumb is half the length of the relationship (any idea why?), but let me just say, as a person who survived 6.5 years, there is light at the end of the tunnel, as many of the people on LS who were married and whatnot can attest. I'm truly happy that you are starting to see there is life after this guy, even if Mr. Guy With Girlfriend isn't it.
AriaIncognito Posted July 10, 2007 Posted July 10, 2007 That is good news that you are over your ex, but now you are infatuated with a guy who has a GF? This is my concern. She mentions being over the one, but I think it's because she switched her obsession onto another. Take that other away, and I'd venture to guess that she'd not be over the 1st. I mean no disrespect, but I think maybe you should be single for a while and not have intents towards anyone, until you're actually over the ex, and not deflecting love for him towards another....
dr strangelove Posted July 10, 2007 Posted July 10, 2007 ......that Mcfadden is el Mc-FABB-en!! I also think I might be in love with you... I also think you might be ronald mcdonalds love child but we can work through that..
Author McFadden Posted July 10, 2007 Author Posted July 10, 2007 Well...I am not obsessed with the other guy. I was in a dramatic mood when I wrote about my loins burning and whatnot. I don't even think I'd have a relationship with this guy if he were single, there are other issues with him. I am just happy that I think someone is attractive besides my ex, I don't see whats wrong with that. I don't think its because of this guy. I think I've been over my actual ex for a while, and since then I've only been obsessed with my resentment about the situation and I just finally realized that. Sorry but I already have a mental block that causes me not to take any negativity on LS seriously..if I did I would be somewhere killing myself by now.
Pyro Posted July 10, 2007 Posted July 10, 2007 Well...I am not obsessed with the other guy. I was in a dramatic mood when I wrote about my loins burning and whatnot. I don't even think I'd have a relationship with this guy if he were single, there are other issues with him. I am just happy that I think someone is attractive besides my ex, I don't see whats wrong with that. I don't think its because of this guy. I think I've been over my actual ex for a while, and since then I've only been obsessed with my resentment about the situation and I just finally realized that. Sorry but I already have a mental block that causes me not to take any negativity on LS seriously..if I did I would be somewhere killing myself by now. Thats a good idea.
dropdeadlegs Posted July 10, 2007 Posted July 10, 2007 Holy crap! I read the title and then read your first sentence as "I ran over my ex" and was a little disappointed that I had misread the first sentence. It was kind of a letdown to hear that you are over an ex. Actually I'm glad nobody was run over. Since you feel better about something that has had you down, all I will say is that I'm glad that you are feeling better, and to be careful where you place your heart since the new crush doesn't sound very promising.
Author McFadden Posted July 10, 2007 Author Posted July 10, 2007 Thats a good idea. Not that I don't take everyones advice seriously but when I think things are going well I'm not going to read too much into it. All I care about at the moment is that the main situation is dissolving..now I know not to put all my eggs in one basket (person) anyway..
Pyro Posted July 10, 2007 Posted July 10, 2007 Not that I don't take everyones advice seriously but when I think things are going well I'm not going to read too much into it. All I care about at the moment is that the main situation is dissolving..now I know not to put all my eggs in one basket (person) anyway.. You should take peoples advice seriously, but if anyone is going to intentionally post a negative comment on here, those are the ones that you shouldn't take to heart.
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