tanbark813 Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Did any of them turn into anything much? What was the outcome of those relationships? Two girlfriends I've had I met from a dating site. Both relationships were relatively short-lived which may or may not correlate with meeting them online. I did meet a really cool girl last year on Match and after a few dates we decided to just be friends but I still hang out with her on occasion. She's one of my karaoke buddies.
doiask42much Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 I recently moved and figured for the price of a meal, joining match would be a good way to expand my social circle in a new town. I got TONS of responses. Most people didn't take the time to "get to know you" in any way. It was wink, then a sentence saying here's my phone number call me sometime. I personally needed more of a reason to call that particular person besides the fact that they could type 10 digits. I got a lot of this too! People were really obvious about the fact that they were playing the numbers game, going through as many people as quickly and efficiently as possible, which I found pretty unappealing. Many were not interested in chatting online and wanted to meet face to face before deciding if I was "worth the bother" of getting to know. Not that I'm real big on romance, but this was just TOO pragmatic for my liking.
doiask42much Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Online has worked well for me too, at least as far as getting dates. I've had some good ones and only a couple of weirdos. It is only one method. And yes, good looking people do use it. Stargazer, Tanny, and Myself have all used it, and while I don't know about Tanny, from what I read on LS his reputation precedes him. Didn't Tanny and Stargazer go on a date? And then...? Inquiring minds want to know! I kind of asked before but my curiosity was not satisfied.
tanbark813 Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Didn't Tanny and Stargazer go on a date? And then...? Inquiring minds want to know! I kind of asked before but my curiosity was not satisfied. It was decided that it would just be the one date.
Herzen Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 I had one guy lie about his age and previous marital status, but I let it go and then was rebuffed for not getting back to him quickly enough for a second date! Others said some pretty rude things to me, I assumed because their egos were bruised that I wasn't keen on going out again. I just found that this businesslike approach to dating (it felt so much like going on a job interview, each and every time) didn't work well for me. Maybe if I had persisted it might've gotten better? My general feeling was that if a guy wasn't taken at this age, there was some reason for it, and in each case, it didn't take me long to figure out what the reason was. Herzen, maybe in your peer group it's a different story, people recently out of marriages and other LTRs, but it seemed to me that at my age (late 20s at the time), people were mostly settled and on the marriage track. I am thinking maybe I put too much emphasis on a guy's looks in choosing who I would go out with and then got a bunch of jerks. I just didn't really see the point of meeting people I wasn't physically attracted to, though, and I figured they were doing the same. Good point. I strongly suspect that online dating is easy for divorced male middle-aged professionals. We, and our middle-aged female counterparts, don't have the great weight of expectations that burden younger folks in their very serious 20's and 30's. My current early 50's GF, whom I met on Match, expects a fun time with me--not marriage and a family. She had both. Middle-age is the time for diminished expectations, and life, believe it or not, is much more fun.
doiask42much Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Herzen, that's really encouraging and good to know. So much of the time I feel like I expect too much (hence my handle) and then consequently feel disappointed. That and I feel people expect a lot from me as well. A lot of the online daters I ran across seemed to rule out people for very strange, trivial, superficial reasons, and I felt a lot of pressure to be acceptable to people who were not even acceptable to me, which I know is stupid and pointless. It was definitely an interesting experience though.
Art_Critic Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 I did online dating on an off for years until I met my GF that I'm seeing now.. The relationship has gone great since we met over 9 months ago.. I have had relationships before that we met online but nothing that has gone this good.. Until I met her I had to kiss a lot of frogs.. but I continued trying till I found her.. It does work..
Star Gazer Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 I've used online dating with great success. I'd say that in all my years of dating, about half of my dates/relationships stem from IRL meetings, and half are from online. Of those online dates/relationships, about half were contacts through MySpace or another type of networking site (that I wasn't even using for romance), and the other half were from Match or eHarmony. I can honestly say that with all but one (who turned into a nightmare AFTER the meeting), I met a pretty awesome guy who was very true to his profile...many of whom I'm still in contact/friends with. Didn't Tanny and Stargazer go on a date? And then...? Inquiring minds want to know! I kind of asked before but my curiosity was not satisfied. There really wasn't anything worth talking about, that's why. In addition, we weren't "online dating," if that makes sense.
uniqueone Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 I often felt that the Match male pool was less strong than the Match female pool. Do you think that's universal? A man that I work with just got back on match after being off of it for a year (in a relationship) and he isn't having much luck at all and he fits your description pretty much of the type of man that you say should have an easy time.
Herzen Posted July 12, 2007 Posted July 12, 2007 Do you think that's universal? A man that I work with just got back on match after being off of it for a year (in a relationship) and he isn't having much luck at all and he fits your description pretty much of the type of man that you say should have an easy time. I'm not sure. I haven't been on Match for about 2 years so perhaps it has changed.When you say your friend is not having much luck do you mean he's not getting many dates or the dates had are lacking? I suspect the latter.
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