sofi Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Well, my story about feeling bad is because sometimes it just feels that dating is not for me. I always trend to pick "bad boys" for whom I care a lot and they seem to care for me but after a while surprise!...things just simply don't work well. My last relation ended up in February, kind of a long distance thing, but I feel so insecure from that time till now that I don't even want to go out anymore. I used to be out all the time and hangin' with friends, now i don;t even like that & rather stay home alone watching movies (pathetic) I feel like anyone will notice me (and it has been that way) and i'm tired. Everyone has someone, except me... what can I do to feel better? I feel so lonely....
peace_pipe Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Well, my story about feeling bad is because sometimes it just feels that dating is not for me. I always trend to pick "bad boys" for whom I care a lot and they seem to care for me but after a while surprise!...things just simply don't work well. My last relation ended up in February, kind of a long distance thing, but I feel so insecure from that time till now that I don't even want to go out anymore. I used to be out all the time and hangin' with friends, now i don;t even like that & rather stay home alone watching movies (pathetic) I feel like anyone will notice me (and it has been that way) and i'm tired. Everyone has someone, except me... what can I do to feel better? I feel so lonely.... Get used to feeling lonely,a s you get older it only gets more difficult to date. The older you get, the more baggage you have and the more baggage a potential mate will have. Just more obstalces. From my experience, nothing every really changes with dating, just the same stuff re-hashed.
jcster Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Everyone has someone, except me... what can I do to feel better? I feel so lonely.... It's easy to feel that way...that everyone has wonderful relationships except you. But, that's not the case. We all go through bad times and loneliness. The only way to feel better is to get out and see some friends. Call a good friend and setup a low-key activity - like seeing a movie OUTSIDE of your house. Make it a solo activity - just your friend and you - not their significant other. Getting out and doing things is the only antidote to depression and loneliness.
Kamille Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Ah yeah the stay inside movie phase. I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. I did it for like two years after my break up three years ago. I am now just starting to dabble back in the dating scene and am just now starting to find it fun, looking for good times and not someone to replace my ex. I feel for you. It is confusing and it does get lonely. It actually helped me to force myself to go out a little at first, whether on my own or with a friend. Excercise is also a great way to ward off the blues (says the girl who hasn't hit the gym in weeks). I still struggle with self-pity sometimes, but lately it's mostly been uphill. I now feel like going out and socializing. I am meeting new people. I guess what I am saying is that what you are going through right now is just a phase. Try doing little things to get out of it and remember, there is nothing wrong with being single. Hell, in my case it's proving to be quite healthy.
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