Kicked in the Gut

[EgyptianAsp55]

]:(Me and my ex met online on. We had the most amazing time ever. Talked for hours late into the night and finally exchanged numbers. We talked on the phone at least once a day along with MSN. We had so much in common and he made me so happy. We decided to meet. I had to travel to see him where he lived (in another city) because he was unemployed and skint at the time. Well, Im a student so I wasn’t exactly loaded but I soo badly wanted to see him. I loved him. So we made arrangements and I left the following week. I was so excited. When I saw him I wasn’t disappointed. We kissed and smiled at each other but didn’t talk much. There was an unspoken bond between us, after all the chatting we’d done online there wasn’t much to say!. He took me to where he lived (with his relative) and introduced me to his friends and family. I was very shy and nervous but I tried to be confident. Well, to cut a long story short, we fancied the hell out of each other and I really loved him so later on in the day, I lost my virginity to him. It just happened, really unexpected. It felt right though. I had to go back home in the evening but he wanted me to stay. I couldn’t though because of home stuff. So he dropped me off at the station, kissed me for ages and then left.He sent me so many sweet loving msgs I couldn’t stop smiling.

 

Well, we were together one more week. He really got into my head, meaning I felt for him in an enormously deep way. I loved him so much, I still do. He began to get aloof. I felt it an effort to talk to him. Well, I don’t really want to get into that so skipping forward, he dumped me at the end of the month. His reason was You’re a liar, hiding things from him and he doesn’t trust me. I tried my best to talk things through but he wouldn’t answer his phone and then told me not to phone him anymore. My heart broke because I had to let him go.

 

3 weeks later he rang me and started talking as though everything was fine. I was so surprised. He was being very nice, not like the last time when he was shouting and calling me nasty things. I admit it was soo good to hear his voice so I played along. I even said ‘I missed you’, which is putting it mildly

 

Anyway. We had this hot and cold thing going for the past 3 months. Texting, phoning sometimes talking online. He said he still loved me. Then all of a sudden, he would ignore me. for ages sometimes. everything was really uncertain. But I did know that I still loved him and really wanted him back.

 

One day he texted saying “im fedup of this, it seems like ur not bothered to get back together so lets just leave it, goodbye tc”. I txted back saying I am bothered and I do love you etc. then I rang him and we talked. He invited me to come and see him the following week. I agreed. I thought things were back on and felt enormously happy. Until, he started ignoring me again. I sent him texts saying I love you, are you out of credit? Give me a call when you can babe etc. no reply. I got so anxious and angry after 3 days of waiting that I sent a really angry text basically saying ‘**** this, ur playing me etc Goodbye’. He replied a minute later saying ‘ok if that’s how u feel, ive just been really busy but wotever tc bye’. I was so pissed I didn’t reply

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Following weekend. Im on MSN. He’s online aswell. Im not sure whether to start a convo so I wait. About ½ later he says “Hi”. We chat in general and then he asks me “so wots new in ur life?”. I reply “nothing. u?”. he replied “I’ve got a new g/f”.

 

]I was stunned. No words can describe the pain I felt. Am still feeling. He callously gave me her myspace so I could get a good look at how beautiful she is (an Italian model). He told me she lives in his area (implying that they meet everyday), how lovely she is etc. then he went on to tell me how he really cares about me and still wants us to be friends. The usual bulls*it. I said “ye course” (deep inside thinking fu** you im never contacting u again). Then with a word of “good luck and take care” I signed off. And cried my lungs out all night.

 

Its been a week and im still so cut up about it. I don’t think I’ll ever get over him. I hate him yet I love him. I gave him everything and I miss him to death even though he’s hurt me soo much. How am I ever going to forget this?

[child_of_isis]

He is lying about the new g/f.

 

He is all about hurting you. I see tons of emotional abuse coming from him.

 

Run. Run. Run.

[Keara]

That's the first thing I thought too.... that he's lying about the Italian model girl.

 

The guy is a head case. You're going to feel hurt, angry, sad... but don't let him into your life again. You don't need that type of emotional rollercoaster. He's a manipulative, lying son of a bitch. Kick him out of your life for good, and make sure he stays there.

[Chinook]

He is all about hurting you.

 

I see tons of emotional abuse coming from him.

 

Run. Run. Run.

 

Absolutely. 100% truth. Do not answer his emails. Do not take his calls. Do not reply to his text messages. Do not respond to him in any way.

 

If you do, I guarantee you...you will be on this merry-go-round ad-infintum. The guy is a manipulator. Google "emotional +abuse" and look on some of the pages there about the personality traits of this guy. I did it and it shocked me. I actually think the guy I was seeing was a sociopath... he had no insight to what he was doing and he had no feeling of remorse or apology whenever he hurt me. Everything was always turned on me. The one time I stood up for myself by sending him a stinking email about his lying and his attitude, he dumped me. It's taking me time to process it but boy I tell ya, that guy did me a favour.