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I hurt them and now I can't get over it..


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This is a long story, but I'll make it short and simple. A few years ago, I lost a couple really good friends, because of my doings. About 4 months ago, I reconnected with them via myspace, and since then we've been talking through comments and messages. Here's the thing, they want to hang out with me, but I still kind of feel bad for what happened, which is holding me back. I wish I didn't feel this way, but I do. Does anyone have any advice, because they obviously forgave me. Does anyone have any advice for my "insecurities"? Thanks:)

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I'm kind of going through the beginning stages of what you went through. This year, I pushed my friends away by acting just awfully. Seriously, I just called one of my friends to try to fix things. The fact that they forgave you if great. I understand that you feel bad about what happened, but you have to forgive yourself and try to get your friends back. You don't want to have any regrets later. I don't think you'll ever regret reconnecting with them, it's more likely you'd regret on passing over this chance. Just hang out with them and see how it goes.

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Sounds like they're pretty understanding. Meet up with them in person & if you haven't already apologized, use it as an opportunity to do so. Also, sometimes we blow things way out of proportion. I've sometimes agonized over something I'd done only to find it was no big deal to the person I'd wronged (& apologized to). And I had one friend who apologized repeatedly for something he'd done a long time ago. I told him it was water under the bridge & not to worry.

 

Good luck on your meeting with them! Let us know how it goes.

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They've forgiven you so now you must forgive yourself. Much harder to do but I don't think I would bring up the past unless they do. If the subject comes up I would apologize to them but otherwise just accept their over it and you need to move forward.

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