neveragain2493 Posted July 8, 2007 Posted July 8, 2007 my friend, who i used to have a crush on, and he used to have a crush on me, has a new girlfriend. i'm most definitely not jealous since i'm over him. this girl is about a year older than him. she has done some drugs, smoked, drank, partied, you know, done bad things, while i've been clean my whole life. and he is not the kind of guy that's into that because he has stopped liking many girls because of their drug use, etc., or at least i thought. she is very immature in her style of humor, and sometimes very innappropriate. she tends to insult a lot when she jokes. and she curses more than sailors do, i kid you not. she has also had to get a counselor's help for her compulsive lying: she takes advantage of the fact that she has diabetes and has also told my friend that i have called her and cursed her out. the two have been together for about 2 weeks now and are already saying they're "in love" with each other. i've noticed a change in my friend: we used to talk for hours everyday, but now he hardly ever talks to me, let alone his other friends, especially girls, since the girlfriend has a jealousy problem. sadly, i would define him as a pushover. he also curses MUCH more often, more often than usual. i keep telling myself it's all a dream, that it won't work out. i keep telling myself i'm happy for him, he's just with the wrong person. and that's what i'd like to believe. i just need some backup to know i'm not the only one here that thinks this. please help me. he and i have had so many arguments over this, we used to NEVER argue.
norajane Posted July 8, 2007 Posted July 8, 2007 If I take at face value that you're 'most definitely not jealous' because you're 'over him', then you're concerned your friend is dating someone who isn't going to be good for him in the long run. There's never anything we can do when our friends do that...they never listen, and they usually don't appreciate hearing any disapproval. Since she's not what you'd expect he'd go for, my guess is she must be hot. That's usually the only reason guys go out with girls who are a mess otherwise. This probably will end badly for him, and, unfortunately, he'll probably be heartbroken and hurt. As his friend, be there for him when it comes crashing down around his ears, one way or another. ...but, I'm not entirely convinced you're over him. If that's the case, keep it to yourself for now. He's not going to be interested in you when he's head over heels with the hot druggie lying girl.
Author neveragain2493 Posted July 13, 2007 Author Posted July 13, 2007 yes, that's exactly it. me and him have decided to be friends, and we look out for each other. this is about our friendship. and yes, she is pretty, but he is mainly in denial. when he likes a girl, his world revolves around her, and her only, and he will believe anything she says while he blocks out every single one of his friends. and yeah, that's what i think is going to happen. i've always been there and i will be if/when it does. and i am over him, if he did ask me out i would say no after all that has happened since we've decided to remain friends. my own best guess is to wait it out?
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