D&L Posted July 7, 2007 Posted July 7, 2007 Me and my new man have been dating for 3 months now but we've known eachother longer. Everything is good...well at least it was good until a few weeks ago when he started getting upset about me talking to his friends. The thing is I've known his friends even before I knew him and we were all close. One day I went to go hang out at one of there houses, not to do anything of course, but I'm so used to always hanging out there. He got upset about that and I realize my mistake, I shouldnt have done that. But then the other day, I seen another one of our mutual friends on the road and he walked with me to the bus stop and that was it. I told my man about this and he got upset and I am so confused. I really dont understand my wrong in this one... and if anybody does, please feel free to tell me because I cant continue to argue with this man anymore.
Lauriebell82 Posted July 7, 2007 Posted July 7, 2007 It's probably just jealousy. Guys usually get jealous of their gfs even hanging out with guy friends, but when it their own friends, it's a little weirder I guess. I don't think it's that he doesn't trust you, he's just a little jealous. He may even be a little worried about what his friends may be telling you about him! What you can do: Maybe don't hang out with them without your bf. If you do happen to run into them and talk to your bf about it downplay it. Say, oh yeah hun I bumped into your friend and said hi. Don't say he walked you to the bus stop, we had a good conversation, ect. I know it seems stupid and weird, but the majority of guys are like that. Suggest that maybe you all hang out together, like all go out to a bar. I do that with my bf, we all go out together and it's a lot of fun. His friends really like me, but I think my bf would get real jealous if I hung out with them alone. I talk to his best friend online sometime and he even gets weird about that.
PeterJames Posted July 7, 2007 Posted July 7, 2007 As long as nothing happened, guys don't need to hear about it. It's early in the relationship, that's where the insecurity stems from. Make sure to make him understand that you can have friends just like he can.
Lostgurl Posted July 7, 2007 Posted July 7, 2007 Super jealous. If he's like this in the very beginning of the relationship, how do you think he'll get when he becomes more attached to you? As time passes he'll likely become more and more controlling. Watch out.
halfarock Posted July 8, 2007 Posted July 8, 2007 I’ve come to realize, by reading the various posts on Love Shack, that most people seem to think that a man and women won’t or can’t talk to each other unless one or the other is sexually attracted to the other. Add to this, insecurities, and you have a guy who is all pissed off and impossible to reason with.
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