ims Posted July 7, 2007 Posted July 7, 2007 lonely. ever just felt lonely? why are we in the relationship to feel lonely? why does that happen? why do we jump in and ask questions-deal with reality later? why is it that we choose to sit and wait? maybe tomorrow will be different? will it? why again am i sitting here while he sleeps? why would i feel bad if he woke and i wasnt here...why do i often-not always-feel like i am the one giving in and putting my feelings aside? i just am not happy. it hurts. sometimes i am so happy and obviously tonight i am not. i realize not everything is easy. i am aware. i am more than willing to work and fight for my relationship. i am just getting tired. he is so nice and funny. i feel like this relationship has been more about him. what the f*** happened to me. where did i go? i am losing myself. i feel myself withdrawing. feel myself getting lazy. feel myself making more trips to the kitchen. falling in a rut. how do i pick myself up again?
jcster Posted July 7, 2007 Posted July 7, 2007 Hi there - yes, I've felt lonely in a relationship. I've felt my self slip away - I've felt like a ghost in my own body. Yes indeed. why do i often-not always-feel like i am the one giving in and putting my feelings aside? Because you probably are. And that's why you are lonely and feel yourself slipping away. Are you putting enough energy into your life? Or is it all going into your relationship? If you don't take care of yourself and your own needs for happiness, peace, enrichment, validation and love, then you will feel this way. It's like a starving person - they lose muscle when the fat runs out. Stop allowing the relationship to be all about him. Make it about you and him and you will spend less nights like this. Take care.
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