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I completely trust my gf...i always have. but there are times when i get jealous of things she says, does, etc....she doesnt talk to many other guys, if hardly ever and i know she would never cheat on me. Somehow i always find myself on her computer when she goes to work and looking at her myspace and facebook and seeing what shes done and looking at her browsing history. Shes never given me a reason to look and i never find anything bad....why do i do this? Am i obsessive compulsive or something?

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Sounds like you like to control her. I dont think she would enjoy that you're doing it on her back. Have you told her about this?

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...why do i do this?
Insecurities.
BlueEyedSarah
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I completely trust my gf...i always have. but there are times when i get jealous of things she says, does, etc....she doesnt talk to many other guys, if hardly ever and i know she would never cheat on me. Somehow i always find myself on her computer when she goes to work and looking at her myspace and facebook and seeing what shes done and looking at her browsing history. Shes never given me a reason to look and i never find anything bad....why do i do this? Am i obsessive compulsive or something?

Did you have someone before your girlfriend who cheated on you? This may be a reason why you are doing what you say you are doing.

 

You should stop doing it before it comes an obsession and you get caught by her.

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Ive done the same. Its a matter of that bit of not knowing....... you just need to. If there are any other men in her life you abviously want to know about it, and something most likely happened to make you curious, and to make you check.

 

But if you do feel somethings up, ask.

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Well you could be insecure or just plain curios! Thing is in the long run when you would like to get married one day. You must be able to trust the person that you wish to spend your life with. Although, we all get carried away when we want to find things out of what are beloved does when we are not around and looking. It's natural to feel jealous, curios or even nosey of what your gf does. Just don't assume things of her as you look into what she does by your own will.

Hope this helps....:)

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You should have a reason for going through her personal info. I would only do what you are doing if I got a wierd feeling, or noticed a change in behavior. Otherwise your going to cause some major trouble.

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Then maybe you shoudld go look. I suspected and was right, and then I got on this obsessed track for some time, kept finding more and more, makes you dig deeper. The problem is, if you are finding nothing, then you need to back it way off. You need tot alk to her about feeling insecure and deal with it together soon. Seriously, I am a big fan of counseling together, not that it worked in my issues in the past, but if you both love each other, then work it out together, but the constant checking for no reason is a big problem and can easily destroy your relationship.

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