love necessity Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 What do you think about people who talk about people constantly? Is it wrong for people to think they are better then other people? My boyfriends parents aren't that bad, but every time we go to their house, it seems like I find myself in the same conversation. Talking about their neighbors and talking about neighborhood kids who dropped out of school, and etc, etc. They are always putting their kids on a petal stool like they are all perfect. Not only do they constantly bicker on about people, they are always talking about drama in the news and anything that is negative. I rarely hear them talking about something that makes me feel good. They always seem to be focused on the bad, which makes me not want to go over there. They have always treated me as part of the family, but there were a few incidents in the past, which made me second-guessed my relationship with them. Then there are the issues that I bring to the table, which I will discuss later on. There are some other issues I would like to talk about, but I first wanted to see what advice I can get from this. Thanks!! I really appreciate all advice!
Born Again Posted July 19, 2007 Posted July 19, 2007 Dear Love Necessity- I read your post and found it interesting. The description that you gave regarding your boyfriends parents was very familiar to me. My mother and father also act that way at times. I thought I may be able to pass on some information to you, hoping that it will help you to understand these people, and why they do what they do. What do you think about people who talk about people constantly? People that talk about other people constantly usually do so because they are insecure folks. Highlighting negative aspects to be found in other people make them feel better, because it ‘lifts them up’ on a pedestal spiritually speaking, and so they feel better about themselves. That is why they are so negative. By comparing themselves to the negative aspects of people, they feel better inside. Is it wrong for people to think they are better then other people? In the above context, sure it is wrong. All people have good and bad aspects, no one is perfect. By focusing on the good aspects of people, we can better appreciate what they have to offer. And by focusing on the good aspects, we can also learn from them and change for the better. They have always treated me as part of the family, but there were a few incidents in the past, which made me second-guessed my relationship with them. If you feel comfortable, please elaborate on the incidents that caused you to second-guess your relationship with them. By looking at this in more detail, you may be able to discover things about your relationship with them that you do not know. Born Again
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