Peter AL Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 Over a year ago I came to scotland in search of adventure, I met a girl and we have been in a relationship for just over a year now. It was my first serious relationship. Over the last few months she had been growing distant and there was no affection coming from her side, she chatted a lot on msn and online forums etc. I became suspicious and thought there was someone else, so I installed a key logger on the pc. Not that I am proud of doing that but I wanted to know where I stood with her as she was not letting me know. The next morning I looked at what she had been up to and she was flirting with this guy on msn, I went to work and when I came home I looked to see if anything else had happened. I found she had been taking explicit pictures of herself and sending them to this guy. When she came home I was so angry. She asked me what was wrong and I said nothing, she then said, "I think we should stop seeing each other" I agreed and we broke up, I told her that I knew and showed her the conversation. That was 3 days ago. She also said that it was the first time she had done that and that she had only just started chatting to him, which means that she is sending explicit pics to people she hardly knows, which I have trouble beleiving. I now have to live in the same flat as her until I can leave this country in august. How do I cope with living with her while feeling so angry and betrayed by her. I still loved her until I found out and am having trouble with my emotions. She is carrying on as if nothing happened and does not seem affected at all. I would move out if I could but that is not an option unfortunately. I have no support base here and phoning home is very costly. What should I do to be polite to her and civil when I am so hurt, how do I cope.
Poboy Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 tough situation but i think you need to sit down and calm yourself and analyse whatever has happened. i know its a tough situation but you need to work it out with her till august so better start thinking on those lines. consider it like you are living with a roomate. let her be and you carry on with your life. its going to be rough but only you control your life , not someone else ... dont let emotions or past come in your way . she will realise you mean business with the break off and see what happens then if you want something to happen that is. good luck .
Author Peter AL Posted July 6, 2007 Author Posted July 6, 2007 Thanks for the advice, I need some more. We are still facebook friends and I find myself obsessively looking at her facebook and other networking websites I know she is on when she is out. I dont like being obsessive and would like to remove her as a facebook friend and limit the contact we have. As I still have to live with her and see her every day until I leave, is there a nice way I can tell her that I dont want to be facebook friends without hurting her. I dont want her to know that I am obsessing but would like to explain to her why I dont want more links to her life than is neccessary at the moment.
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