Irish_guy Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 I'm looking for some advice on contacting an old friend I have not spoken to in a few years. There were no bad words spoken the last time we talked, we just stopped talking...recently, through an odd series of events I've found out where she's working. So now that she has been brought to my attention, I have decided to get in touch with her and I am unsure what the best way to reach her would be. She works in a formal environment, so actually visiting in person would be awkward for her and may put her off and calling could have the same results, depending on what her job currently is. I guess the other options I have are to call when the business is closed and leave a voice mail or write a letter (do people write letters anymore?) and send it to her at work or home. Anyway, any and all advice/tips/suggestions/ experiences are welcome, and thanks in advance.
kimba Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 i have a friend where we lost contact for 2 years (we had been friends since 1988) She had moved an hour away which is not far , but one person didn't return a call and then it got too long...... then last christmas i heard that thru my sister that she broke him with her 16 year long defacto. i was in a similar situation where i had a major bust up with my best male friend, and i thought, hey this is a good a time as any. I gave her a call, we both cried on each others shoulder and now are in regular contact. i guess with your friend i guess it depends entirely on where she is at in her life as to how she responds to you. the other question is, do you have any other motivations beside friendship??? I wouldn't turn up at her work or house, thats too full on. i wouldn't write a letter. I would just call, and see how easily you talk. I can't remember if you said you had a home number or just work? Work is sticky.
Poboy Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 email her or get in touch through social networking site . if neither is possible then call or voice mail.
JulieJ Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 I would send an email because it leaves less room for awkwardness and she won't feel put on the spot when she receives it. It will a good way to break back into the relationship.
love necessity Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 Is she listed in the phone book? If not, then call her at work if she's busy, she'll let you know. I'm sure she's not going to bite your head off. Leave a short simple message if all else fails. Don't act too desperate. Me and my friend had a group of friends vanish on us. But, I think deep down, there were other issues. We didn't really have anything in common with those people anyway. =( If think writing a letter is too personal. She may be involved and you know how those things go.=) I guess getting in touch with an old friend just depends on how you two lost touch in the first place. If you are seeking something more besides friendship, be cautious, you don't want to end up hurt. I hope this works for you.
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