buzzie2 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 There is this guy from my workplace who for the last 8 months has been showing an interest in me. At first he flirted very heavily with me and would go out of his way to talk to me and sometimes rub my shoulder. Then for a couple of months he cooled off. After mid february he started flirting again after my boss told me she thought he liked me and i admitted that i thought he was cute. He was always staring at me and smiling at me, and one day even asked if i was single. So then this one day i flirted really heavily with him which seemed to freak him out although it was obvious he liked the attention because he got this love sick look in his eyes. He looked really embarrassed that i saw this. Now he doesn't flirt with me as much anymore but he is initiating more conversations with me and treating me more like a friend. Also it's clear he's still very attracted to me by his body language and eye contact. So back to my original question; what exactly are he and i?
chryssy83 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Better question: what do you want to be? Right now, you are co-workers. Not the answer you were hoping for? Why don't you ask him out?
daphne Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 you're coworkers. It sounds like a possible case of infatuation on his side. Most often, people who are prone to infatuations would prefer to leave it that way. If they perceive they can have the object of their infatuation, sometimes they lose interest because the heightened challenge is gone. Or, they run scared because they know that you can hurt them. Most people would rather date someone that doesn't upset the apple cart rather than risk pursuing someone who could crush them if it doesn't work out. btw, if he doesn't grow the balls necessary to pursue you, I would forget about him.
halfarock Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 Well, if he went from flirting to talking, I’d say that that was a step in the right direction. You know, when there is someone that you like that you see almost daily, it seems to me that there would be less pressure to advance the relationship with any speed. Plus, it being work and all, I’d imagine4 that he’d be a bit more cautious. With someone that you see rarely there is more of an urgency. You don’t have to ask him out for a date, just lunch.
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