cloud92000 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 I had not long been out of a relationship when i started seeing phil, i really liked him but i completley screwed it up because i kept messing him around and hurting him by being so nasty alot of the time. Thinking back now i know i was an idiot so please spare me the insults. I guess i should of sorted my head out before jumping into another relationship then i wouldnt have been so confused etc. Anyway we split up and didnt talk for quite some time, then the other week we started talking on msn and got on really well., it started to look like he still liked me. He asked me if i wanted to come over so i did. When i was at his he was acting the way he used to be with me and there was a couple of occasions where he was hinting for a kiss or holding my hand, cuddling me and he kept making excuses for me to stay later too. I was really happy but i felt uncomfortable so i didnt kiss him or anything. When i left his i text him to say thanks and i then asked him if he liked me still. He replied im afraid not in that way. I was gutted because i was pretty much 100% sure he liked me from the way he was while i was there, it seemed obvious but i guess i was wrong. I asked him why and he said that it would never be the same between us because he dosnt have the feelings or trust he did before. Im so confused because at his he seemed really into me I know alot of you think i should move on but the thing is, i cant. Hes the most amazing guy iv ever met and i think im in love with him because no matter what i can never stop thinking of him and he makes me feel great when im with him. Hes gone away for the week and i spoke to him this morning, he was back to his flirty self and even said he'd miss me abit. Iv never felt like this about anyone, i dont know whether to just completly stay out of his way when he gets back and hope il get over him or to still talk to him. any advice, please im just so confused as in what to do next?
Lauriebell82 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 WOW, you just described exactly what happened with my boyfriend. Same exact thing, I was real hurt from just getting out of a long term relationship, and so I treated him like total crap. I didn't do it cause I didn't like him, just that I was trying to protect myself from being hurt again. We only dated for like a month before he broke up with me because i was such a biatch to him. Anyway, he tried to get me back, and I said it wasn't a good idea. 6 months later he added me on facebook and we started talking on IM. He suggested we hang out, so we did and went to the movies. We were getting along so well, I was finally ready to be with someone and totally over my ex bf. He had reservations because of how mean I was to him, but he could tell that i had changed so we started dating again. He kept bringing up the past and what I had done, and i kept telling him that it was us dating NOW, not back then. That I would hope we could start all over again. Anyway, we have been together for 11 months now and are really in love. We want to get married someday, and I am sooooo glad he gave me another chance. So why I went into all that. I suggest talking to this guy. Tell him how sorry you were for being so mean, that you didn't do it to hurt him, you werent ready to date yet. Tell him that your totally ready to be with him, and hope he could give you another chance and start fresh. He may bring up the past and what you had done, but keep reminding him that it's you and him NOW. I really hope he gives you another shot, it sounds like he does care about you but is scared that what happened last time will happen again. Just have a serious talk with him. I really hope he gives you another chance!
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