friedchicken Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 I was engaged but I found out "Ted" cheated on me with a girl he dated before me "Jill." I broke up with Ted when I found out since they were seeing each other the whole time we dated. Jill ratted him out to me. I had no clue before I spoke with her and she showed me proof. I have a friend that works with Ted. Her name is Mary. Jill works in the same field as Ted does. About 6 weeks after I ended it, Jill was at a work function with Ted and my friend, Mary. Mary told me that while at the function Ted tried to get Jill's attention and Ted went out of his was to make sure that Jill saw him. Mary said that from what she saw, Jill wouldn't/didn't talk to Ted. What is Ted's deal? Shouldn't Ted hate Jill for telling on him and causing me to end our relationship? I don't think it bothered Ted that she told on him if he wanted Jill to see him or to talk to him. Shouldn't he hate her for telling?
Tony T Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 I don't think you should care even slightly. Move on with your life!
Author friedchicken Posted July 4, 2007 Author Posted July 4, 2007 Yes I know but it is hard to move on when you have been hurt like this. I just wish I knew all the answers.
Tomcat33 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 I was engaged but I found out "Ted" cheated on me with a girl he dated before me "Jill." I broke up with Ted when I found out since they were seeing each other the whole time we dated. Jill ratted him out to me. I had no clue before I spoke with her and she showed me proof. I have a friend that works with Ted. Her name is Mary. Jill works in the same field as Ted does. About 6 weeks after I ended it, Jill was at a work function with Ted and my friend, Mary. Mary told me that while at the function Ted tried to get Jill's attention and Ted went out of his was to make sure that Jill saw him. Mary said that from what she saw, Jill wouldn't/didn't talk to Ted. What is Ted's deal? Shouldn't Ted hate Jill for telling on him and causing me to end our relationship? I don't think it bothered Ted that she told on him if he wanted Jill to see him or to talk to him. Shouldn't he hate her for telling? Well it all depends, was Ted happy he was to be married to you? Or was he looking for a way out? The other thing is maybe he feels lonely and the one he cheated with is a sure bet to keep him company so that's why he is sniffing around to see if she will pay any attention to him. Why did he cheat with her? I'm sorry you are hurting
Lynna Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Well, he may think that she told because she wanted to be with him so much. So now that you are not available to him, he is going to his other option thinking that she should still want him. He does not want to be alone and is looking for the quick fix. It is a lot easier to hook up with someone you already like, know, and want to be with than to look for someone new.
norajane Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 She has him by the balls, for whatever reason. If they broke up before and then he was still seeing her while taking the risk of destroying your relationship, he has a 'thing' for her that won't quit. Regardless of whether she told, he still has that 'thing' for her. I'm sorry you're going through this. It's a horrible thing for him to do this to you - selfish pig doesn't even begin to describe him.
Author friedchicken Posted July 6, 2007 Author Posted July 6, 2007 Thanks for all your responses. I appreciate the honesty
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