Seen_It_All Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 So again my question is why would someone stay with a man or a woman that they were not in love with completely. Like I said this has nothing to do with me, I am just curious.Not a betrayed wife so I can't answer that for ya. But I have a question for YOU - why do you OW continually let these guys toss you to the curb like used toilet paper when their wives find out about their affair, but you're only TOO happy to CONTINUE letting him use you when he comes sniffing back around a few days or months later? Especially when you KNOW he trash talked you HUGE TIME to his wife and downplayed you as nothing more than a common streetwalker? And trust me, they DO that when they're caught. In my opinion, that's MUCH more degrading and pathetic - taking the loser BACK - than a wife fighting for her marriage and taking back a wayward husband.
Author chichigirl Posted July 5, 2007 Author Posted July 5, 2007 Isn't that what you're doing right NOW? Staying with some scumbag cheating LIAR who doesn't want to leave his wife but wants to PLAY with you on the side? You need to stop posting - you're leaking IGNORANT all over the board. Oh wow you really insulted me now!! I might cry myself to sleep tonight. If I sound ignorant then so you do because you know NOTHING about my situation. As for my man... don't worry he will never find out about any of this. The situation is that I can't be with my true love for my own personal reasons. Maybe one day that will change but for right now this is what works for both him and I. Not everything in life happens exactly how its supposedly planned. On a final note, my question had nothing to do with me I was just curious to know why some women feel that just because he married you means that he can't fall out of love with you? I also find it funny that not one person mentioned anything about me saying that vows are just words for supposed "moral" people when its convenient for them. Anyway good night
Lynna Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 ...you know NOTHING about my situation. ...The situation is that I can't be with my true love for my own personal reasons....Not everything in life happens exactly how its supposedly planned. You just provided the answer to your own original message. We all do what we do for our own personal reasons, period. NO ONE can say 100% what they will do until they are in that situation. Once you are in it you don't even know for sure. I was just curious to know why some women feel that just because he married you means that he can't fall out of love with you? Of course he can fall out of love with you and you can fall out of love with him. That happens all the time and NO ONE here would debate that. Again however, having an A does NOT require that you fall out of love with your spouse for EITHER the cheating spouse or the betrayed spouse. He "loves" his wife because he made a vow to her to love her forever. As much as it may be "morally" wrong to have an affair vows are just words. Its funny how religious everyone becomes when it comes to marriage vows but dont live a moral life otherwise. You want a reply to this - well, your lover who is cheating on his wife is clearly a hypocrite if he is staying married to her because that is what he thinks he is morally obliged to do because of his vows. He had already broken those vows. They are null and void. Even the Bible will tell you that. In fact in the Bible the punishment for an adulter is death ("And the man that committeth adultery with another man's wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbor's wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death" Leviticus 20:10) So he is a lying, cheating, selfish, two-faced hypocrite. He is using you both. He is using his wife for the stability of a family life and he is using you for the emotional and sexual satisfaction he is not getting from his wife. He does not have the strength of character to dedicate himself to either of you. So, yes, you are right, he is immoral in all respects. Do you really want that? How can you believe he would be faithful to you if he did get a D? What if someone else came along five years later who he found a connection with? But staying with a cheating spouse after they betrayed you and after they swear they want to change and they want to repair your marriage is not immoral. The betrayed spouse has not broken any vows. Instead that spouse is giving the cheater a chance to change, to repent, and to rededicate themselves to the marriage. In a sense it is like starting all over again. It is a new relationship forged out of an old, broken one. In fact, my H and I plan to have rededication of our vows once we are ready again to reaffirm our new relationship. If the cheater continues cheating then they are breaking a new commitment and personally I would throw him to the curb at that point no matter how much I still love him.
angel3 Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 Originally Posted by chichigirl He "loves" his wife because he made a vow to her to love her forever. As much as it may be "morally" wrong to have an affair vows are just words. Its funny how religious everyone becomes when it comes to marriage vows but dont live a moral life otherwise. Uhhh, nope. He made a vow to her to love her forever because he 'loves' his wife. You have it backwards, there, sweetiekins. Vows are only words ... ? Religious ?? What do you have, if you do not have your word? Hmm... isn't this why we have legal documents? You don't do anything in life - buy a car, rent an apartment - without a legal document. You don't barter a price with the cable guy, you sign a contract. That is what a marriage certificate is. You even get a legal document when you buy a can of soup - your receipt. When you write a check - you use words. They're only words with a signature (same as vows) - why should the bank have to honor it? Because they legally agreed that they would. By the way, please lets remember here, we choose to get married and take vows. (that includes your MM) No one has to get married and choose to make vows to another person. I know people who don't believe in marriage - so guess what - they didn't get married. Worked out pretty good for the, too, actually ... Committing your life to someone is a huge offering and when you say your vows, you are telling each other, in front of all those you care for you both and the other way around, that because you love each other, you are both agreeing to stick to this 'contract.' And not all weddings are religious, nor are the vows. They are affirmations and promises made legal - a legal commitment. You give as much to the cable guy, why not the spouse? You are about to intertwine your very lives - that's a lot bigger commitment than a year of HBO. Jobs, mortgages, children - a lot goes into building a marriage ... we all know what goes 'into' an affair ... Why pay that speeding ticket? It's only a legal document with a bunch of words on it ... You ask why the W stays? Ask why the MM cheats. Why not just leave the marriage? He doesn't have to cheat, he can leave first if he isn't getting everything he wants and then DO anything he wants! With anyone! Maybe because he does still love her? (he lies to her, who says he doesn't lie to you?) Because of the vows he made? The commitment? The family and kids and house, they whole intertwined life they have together? Well then, is that not enough reason for the W to stay - especially when she has done nothing to break her side of the contract? She is actually upholding her promises to stay through the hard times. To err is human, to forgive, divine. I think. Right? Is that how it goes? Ir if 'divine' is too 'religious' for you: anyone can f*ck up - it takes something special inside the heart, mind and soul to forgive - not everyone can. Just guessing, from your posts, you sound young and unmarried, with a boyfriend and a MM on the side, who you wish would leave his W for you because you enjoy him more than the BF?
Melissa277 Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 Chichigirl, you are questioning others, when you yourself are in the exact same situation. You're with someone who you don't love and cheating with someone who is also cheating on someone (whom you claim he doesn't love). So, I have to ask, because now I don't understand. If you're both so in love, what's stopping you two from being together? These "balls" you speak of. Does "your" MM have any? Do you? You can't understand why a W takes back her WH. Well, I can't understand how a person who is a liar and a cheater questions why anyone else does anything. Why do you assume that your reasons for staying in your situation are more valid than those of others in their situations? Oh, yeah, you stay for the dreaded "personal reasons." Oh, okay then as long as they're personal, it's all good. I know I hate it when someone stays in a marriage for "impersonal" reasons. Why don't you post your "personal reasons" and we can all compare notes? I'm so sorry "your" MM has sooooo much to think about. God, it must be awful ... you know having a W and a family and all that cheating and lying and betraying. How ever does he make it through the day? You're just p*ssed because "your" MM won't leave his family for you. FYI, he's a cake eater. Go ahead, pressure him to leave (he'll string you along ... reason after reason ... money, kids, this, that, blah, blah, blah) or better yet, call his W and spill your guts (this gets the fastest results). Either way, he'll drop you like a used rubber, that is after trashing you to his W and begging her to forgive him and give him another chance. And YOU know it. Time to grow up little girl.
NoIDidn't Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 Oh, okay then as long as they're personal, it's all good. I know I hate it when someone stays in a marriage for "impersonal" reasons. .....snicker.....
Author chichigirl Posted July 6, 2007 Author Posted July 6, 2007 Chichigirl, you are questioning others, when you yourself are in the exact same situation. You're with someone who you don't love and cheating with someone who is also cheating on someone (whom you claim he doesn't love). So, I have to ask, because now I don't understand. If you're both so in love, what's stopping you two from being together? These "balls" you speak of. Does "your" MM have any? Do you? You can't understand why a W takes back her WH. Well, I can't understand how a person who is a liar and a cheater questions why anyone else does anything. Why do you assume that your reasons for staying in your situation are more valid than those of others in their situations? Oh, yeah, you stay for the dreaded "personal reasons." Oh, okay then as long as they're personal, it's all good. I know I hate it when someone stays in a marriage for "impersonal" reasons. Why don't you post your "personal reasons" and we can all compare notes? I'm so sorry "your" MM has sooooo much to think about. God, it must be awful ... you know having a W and a family and all that cheating and lying and betraying. How ever does he make it through the day? You're just p*ssed because "your" MM won't leave his family for you. FYI, he's a cake eater. Go ahead, pressure him to leave (he'll string you along ... reason after reason ... money, kids, this, that, blah, blah, blah) or better yet, call his W and spill your guts (this gets the fastest results). Either way, he'll drop you like a used rubber, that is after trashing you to his W and begging her to forgive him and give him another chance. And YOU know it. Time to grow up little girl. Call me what you will it has no effect on my life at all. In fact I am actually embarrassed for some of you. A wayward husband???????? Bwahahahaa oh please some of you married women are competely delusional!! You can be all be like my neighbor who can not come to the realization that her husband of 15 yrs is not coming back EVER. But in her deluded mind she thinks he married me blah blah blah HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU ANYMORE!!!!!! Get over it and move on with your life, she would be willing to try to work her marriage out with him if he came back, he is long gone. Before you say anything SHE was the bread winner in the family, she put him through school, she was the man in the relationship so he couldn't lose anything to her because he had nothing. Some of you women are so bitter its unreal. A man wants to be treated like a king, plain and simple, he doesn't want a nagging bitter bitch of a wife waiting for him when he comes home. Some of you have this self entitlement like you can just be a bitch and everything will go your way because you "married" him Have you changed what is wrong with you? Have you looked at yourself in the mirror and said I am perfect the way I am. Another woman doesn't just fall into your husbands lap. Some MM are *******s and only want sexual things from OW but not everyone is like that. I am not saying that ALL BS are like this. Just open your eyes a little, geez. Some of you need a reality check QUICKLY
FireandIce Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 Call me what you will it has no effect on my life at all. In fact I am actually embarrassed for some of you. A wayward husband???????? Bwahahahaa oh please some of you married women are competely delusional!! You can be all be like my neighbor who can not come to the realization that her husband of 15 yrs is not coming back EVER. But in her deluded mind she thinks he married me blah blah blah HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU ANYMORE!!!!!! Get over it and move on with your life, she would be willing to try to work her marriage out with him if he came back, he is long gone. Before you say anything SHE was the bread winner in the family, she put him through school, she was the man in the relationship so he couldn't lose anything to her because he had nothing. Some of you women are so bitter its unreal. A man wants to be treated like a king, plain and simple, he doesn't want a nagging bitter bitch of a wife waiting for him when he comes home. Some of you have this self entitlement like you can just be a bitch and everything will go your way because you "married" him Have you changed what is wrong with you? Have you looked at yourself in the mirror and said I am perfect the way I am. Another woman doesn't just fall into your husbands lap. Some MM are *******s and only want sexual things from OW but not everyone is like that. I am not saying that ALL BS are like this. Just open your eyes a little, geez. Some of you need a reality check QUICKLY Personally I think a lot of OW need them as well. They think the sun rises and sets upon them when in fact, quite a few of them are nothing more than a little sidedish. Oh but of course they all believe they are the only one "their" MM loves and wants to be with. I've read all of the excuses around here as to why "their" MM can't be with them.....right now but lets face it, divorce isn't uncommon nowadays and if men were truly unhappy and truly hated their wives and loved their little side dish oh so much then they would be with them. The truth is though, most of them don't leave their wives because as much fun as the OW is, they still want to be with their wives. You can spin that anyway you want but I'm sure only experience will make you believe it and trust me, your day will come and you'll wake up.
Love is Tragic Posted July 8, 2007 Posted July 8, 2007 I will never understand why a married women who find that their husbands are cheating on them would want to stay with them. I read a lot about how the MM never really loved the OW but he really loves his wife. If he loves her so much why would he cheat in the first place? It is not always about sex either. Of course when the affair is found out most MM are going to going crawling back to their wives because the wives have them by the balls, thats not love. A wife can screw up a MM life for a long time. Thats a lot to think about for a MM. Thats I think every situation is different but the fact is a lot of MM do not feel a connection with their wives and therefore they cheat. You know they are not happy on some level but yet the spouse feels like they have won in the end because she got her/him back but for what reason? And for the ones who have men who get found out and then a month later go back to the OW, what are you thinking? Obviously there is something there that is making them go back to the same women they cheated on you with. I don't understand the thought process of some women, I just don't. You want to stay with a man who is obviously not 100% happy with you? I think its just easier to stay with the man, even if he is/was cheating. Especially if its been a number of years and there are kids in the picture,mortgage, bank accounts, and all the 'things' you accrue over the years. And the comfort level. It takes time to build that certain comfort you feel when youve been with someone so long. And i think some women may feel that its better to have a cheating man around than no man. It scares the hell out of many women to think of going it alone, especially if they arent very independent to begin with. Sounds shallow, but ive noticed thats why many many women stay with their cheating husbands. Its almost swept under the rug as long as women still have all their 'stuff'. That, and its hard to let go, if the wife is still head over heels for the husband,then she will do anything to keep him, even if it means forgiving him for his indiscretions. And of course, most women want the father of their child/children to remain in the picture, and to be home with them, even if it means his heart is elsewhere.
Author chichigirl Posted July 8, 2007 Author Posted July 8, 2007 Personally I think a lot of OW need them as well. They think the sun rises and sets upon them when in fact, quite a few of them are nothing more than a little sidedish. Oh but of course they all believe they are the only one "their" MM loves and wants to be with. I've read all of the excuses around here as to why "their" MM can't be with them.....right now but lets face it, divorce isn't uncommon nowadays and if men were truly unhappy and truly hated their wives and loved their little side dish oh so much then they would be with them. The truth is though, most of them don't leave their wives because as much fun as the OW is, they still want to be with their wives. You can spin that anyway you want but I'm sure only experience will make you believe it and trust me, your day will come and you'll wake up. I don't think the sun rises and sets upon me. I don't have sex with him. My situation has nothing to do with the question I asked. His wife and my man will never find out about us. Do I love my man? Sure on some level I do but not how I love my mm. Does he love his wife? yes he does but its not like what we have together. We have so much in common, we think alike and we both want the same things, we connect in a million different ways and we don't even have sex!! Don't dismiss that as nothing, who are you to do that? You are not in my life or his. Unfortunately things are not that simple in our lives where we can be together. I know I say for my own person reasons we can't be together and I really don't want to get into that at all. Basically it has to do with my family and I told him this from the very beginning when he told me he was going to leave her for me *yes I know that I just opened up a huge can of worms with that statement- please spare me your comment I don't care* We talk about this stuff all the time, he knows every single thought in my mind. Is it wrong that we are doing this? Absolutely and trust me I am not flaunting this around at all. I feel guilt all the time. Its not about having "fun" with the OW, yeh maybe in some cases it is about that but not here and not with every affair. Not every MM wants to go back to their nagging wife who will never ever change and if they do its only temporary. I have seen it happen within my own family. I am not saying that his wife is like that at all, he never talks bad about her. Him and I just get along better and match each better. I am not trying to spin anything and I honestly don't care what anyone has to say about my situation. I just asked a simple question and got a million different responses to things that had nothing to do with me. What you say is not the final word, ya know? Come and experience finding out a MM's POV on this subject, not your husband's POV and no I didnt get my info from my MM. People open up to me and I hear plenty of stories from MM who don't love their wives anymore but stay for reasons such as I will have nothing in the end, no house, no money, have to pay rent, the list goes on and on. Why are these men unhappy ohhh thats right because their wives are nagging ungrateful nasty bitches. I should know 2 of my sisters are those women. So some of you can go on and think that you don't have to change to keep a marriage intact but you would be a fool to think that he is not going to find what he is missing in another women and perhaps fall in love with her. You can't get inside someone's head and know what they feel, you will never know that it just may be that he would rather be with the other woman but have to suffer through a marriage. Anyway im off to the beach
NoIDidn't Posted July 8, 2007 Posted July 8, 2007 What you say is not the final word, ya know? Come and experience finding out a MM's POV on this subject, not your husband's POV.... So a MM's word is the final word on this? Some here have Hs that were your beloved "MM". Why NOT ask them? Why ask a question and then balk at the various answers? Especially when you asked it with the OBVIOUS aire of superiority (your sibling rivalry is showing....and its not pretty). You can't get inside someone's head and know what they feel, you will never know that it just may be that he would rather be with the other woman but have to suffer through a marriage. Now your DELUSION is showing. Suffer through a marriage? I hope you don't buy that for one second. The only people suffering through said marriage, are the unfortunate children.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Like I said because the wife has him by the balls and of course he is going to beg b/c he knows you will screw him in any way possible. Its the truth and you know it. :lmao:You've got to be extremely gullible to believe that bull****. I've been married a long time to my husband and we have several children, and never do I "have him by the balls". He brings home more money than I do, and most men make more money than their wives. So if your MM doesn't want to leave his wife for you, it is simply because he is not that into you, not because he is afraid of losing "all" his money to his wife! And how do you know that the wife truly took her husband back? Many times, she simply tolerates his presence for the sake of the kids. It's hardly considered "taking him back". It's more like putting him on probation; and he'll willingly accept being on a tight leash. Conversely, why do you keep seeing a cheater?
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 We have so much in common, we think alike and we both want the same things, we connect in a million different ways and we don't even have sex!! We talk about this stuff all the time, he knows every single thought in my mind. If he knows every single thought in your mind.. then you mustn't have a lot there. Not every MM wants to go back to their nagging wife who will never ever change and if they do its only temporary. And you believe this???? I guess you will believe anything! People open up to me and I hear plenty of stories from MM who don't love their wives anymore but stay for reasons such as I will have nothing in the end, no house, no money, have to pay rent, the list goes on and on. Why are these men unhappy ohhh thats right because their wives are nagging ungrateful nasty bitches. Hahaha! Useless men will bitch and whine when the tough gets going. You are indeed doing their wives a huge favor by taking their men away!
Ladyjane14 Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Quote: Originally Posted by chichigirl Like I said because the wife has him by the balls and of course he is going to beg b/c he knows you will screw him in any way possible. Its the truth and you know it. :lmao:You've got to be extremely gullible to believe that bull****. I've been married a long time to my husband and we have several children, and never do I "have him by the balls". I dunno KHLF... If you never get him by the balls, screw him any way possible, or make him beg... you might be doin' it wrong. :laugh::laugh:
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 I dunno KHLF... If you never get him by the balls, screw him any way possible, or make him beg... you might be doin' it wrong. :laugh::laugh: Yeah, I think you are onto something, there wise one. Although, who knows what my H would tell his women friends about me?? I know quite a few MMs who will bitch and complain about their marriage as a way to built rapport. They just want a sympathetic ear mostly, and I would never take their words for more than what they are. I mean, I have MY OWN thoughts in my head, you know? :laugh:
Ladyjane14 Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Yeah... I agree with you on 'the gullibility factor. It just doesn't even begin to make sense for an adult person to believe one half of a story, as if it were the Lord's own Gospel or something.
Lynna Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 You can't get inside someone's head and know what they feel, you will never know... You answered your own question here. You can NEVER know what someone is TRULY feeling. NEVER. We are not mind readers. Each one of us have our reasons for leading our own lives the way we do. Some of us choose to get a D after a WS has an affair. Some of us choose to try to save/rebuild the marriage complete with all the love and trust. Some of us choose to stay in a loveless marriage for various reasons. Some of us choose to have an A. Some of us choose to delude ourselves about our SO for some reason. Some of us choose to forgive ourselves or our SO for our own personal reasons. I could go on and on here. Every situation is different. Every situation is personal. In no case can we say this is 100% what I would do if I were in your shoes because you are NOT in my shoes. We can't know what we ourselves would do without a doubt until we are there with all the facts in front of us. Therefore, there is truth in ALL of the posts on this thread! It is therefore really a moot question. We stay, go, or cheat depending on each one of us individually. We can only chat and talk with each other. None of us can make decisions for any of the others. NO ONE knows unequivocally what is right for someone else!
Melissa277 Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Call me what you will it has no effect on my life at all. In fact I am actually embarrassed for some of you. A wayward husband???????? Bwahahahaa oh please some of you married women are competely delusional!! You can be all be like my neighbor who can not come to the realization that her husband of 15 yrs is not coming back EVER. But in her deluded mind she thinks he married me blah blah blah HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU ANYMORE!!!!!! Get over it and move on with your life, she would be willing to try to work her marriage out with him if he came back, he is long gone. Before you say anything SHE was the bread winner in the family, she put him through school, she was the man in the relationship so he couldn't lose anything to her because he had nothing. Some of you women are so bitter its unreal. A man wants to be treated like a king, plain and simple, he doesn't want a nagging bitter bitch of a wife waiting for him when he comes home. Some of you have this self entitlement like you can just be a bitch and everything will go your way because you "married" him Have you changed what is wrong with you? Have you looked at yourself in the mirror and said I am perfect the way I am. Another woman doesn't just fall into your husbands lap. Some MM are *******s and only want sexual things from OW but not everyone is like that. I am not saying that ALL BS are like this. Just open your eyes a little, geez. Some of you need a reality check QUICKLY First of all, huh? That is the most ridiculous post I've ever read. I didn't understand any it except that you didn't like the responses you got and it p*ssed you off. I mean, geez, who's the bitter one here? Secondly, you can't even fix your own messed up situation, yet you're an expert on everyone else's. Again, instead of wondering about why others do what they do, why don't you wonder why you're doing what you're doing? You're claim you're involved with a MM and cheating on your SO and you're picking on your neighbor? C'mon now ... really? Talk about needing a reality check. I suspect that you think there's much more to this so-called "relationship" than the MM does. Bottom line ... HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU ... no matter how much you try to convince yourself otherwise. If he did, he would leave NO MATTER WHAT. He's convinced you (or you've convinced yourself) that he can't leave because his wife is a bitter, self entitled, bitch who's got him by the balls and whom he doesn't love? Hello???? That's all the more reason to leave for God's sake. You talk about delusional. You need to get over it already and stop taking your frustrations out on the rest of us. Why don't you try taking them out on "your" lying, cheating, chicken sh*t of a MM instead? One more thing ... you don't understand why so many W's take back their CH's? Maybe you should be asking why so many CH's beg their W's to take them back. I mean if the wives are "taking them back" they must be asking to be taken back, right?
JustBreathe Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 What a loser. Knowing you're only a convenient piece of a$$ must be very hard. I have to wonder why OWs can't make their own lives, find a man of their own, and have to leech off another woman's life. No self-esteem, no sense of self-worth, I guess. She can't get a man of her own and has to leech off some unsuspecting woman's life. Oh well. Who cares about her opinion anyway. Go to the beach with the other fish.
Melissa277 Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 What a loser. Knowing you're only a convenient piece of a$$ must be very hard. I have to wonder why OWs can't make their own lives, find a man of their own, and have to leech off another woman's life. No self-esteem, no sense of self-worth, I guess. She can't get a man of her own and has to leech off some unsuspecting woman's life. Oh well. Who cares about her opinion anyway. Go to the beach with the other fish. Yeah, and what amazes me is that all the while she's leeching she's criticizing. I guess quoting the ole' saying "people who live in glass houses shouldn't throw stones" probably wouldn't do any good because it would go right over her head. Or she would find a way to twist it around so that it applies to every one but her .... even her poor neighbor.
JustBreathe Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Wow. She's screwing the neighbor woman's husband? How convenient is that! When he wants a quick bj all he has to do is go next door! Quicker and cheaper than a prostie. The man's efficient if nothing else. OH YEAH, this guy is really leaving his wife... MM famous words: I can't leave my wife til my kids are grown! I can't leave my wife until the house is paid for! I can't leave my wife until I retire! I can't leave my wife until the grandkids are older! I can't leave my wife because ... because ... um ... the dog is sick! Yeah, stick around, Chumpi, I mean, ChiChi, maybe he will leave one day and do his wife a favor. Just think! You might even get to change the man's diapers! Joy!
JustBreathe Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 OOPS, forgot she said she doesn't sleep with her married man... oh sure. THAT's rich. I'm sure they just hold hands and gaze at each other with pink hearts shooting out of their eyes.... *snark* I'm glad she left, it was turning me off my tunafish sandwich.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 And of course, most women want the father of their child/children to remain in the picture, and to be home with them, even if it means his heart is elsewhere. His HEART, he has a heart??? Yeah, right! The problem is he has no heart. Which is why the BS, OW, and his family are in this position to begin with. OW and BS are p ositions in his life, when one leaves he will simply fill the vacancy. IN NEITHER CASE is it about the particular woman though, its HIS FANTASY!
Author chichigirl Posted July 9, 2007 Author Posted July 9, 2007 I have a bit of advice for those of you who choose to be nasty GET OFF THE ****ING COMPUTER AND WORK ON YOUR ****ING MARRIAGES!!!!!! Some of you just love to hear yourself talk **** like you know it all about everybody, You don't even read what other people write because you are so ****ing self centered!!!!! Just shut the **** up already!! Hmmm just so you know most guys hate know it alls. A few things I will say before I go so you guys can talk **** about me... I really don't care 1- Sibling rivalry?? who ever said that, yeh you know me, I am soooooo jealous of my sister considering the fact I was about 7 when she got married, so Mrs know it all put your thinking cap on and you will figure out about how old she, old enough to be my mother. The other one oh yes I soooooo what to be like her and have a husband who acts like he would rather be dead than be with her but he stays because of the kid. She is very abusive. But let me guess you are going to tell me you personally know him right? Because after all YOU KNOW IT ALL!!!! 2- I never said that HE had a nagging wife, not once did I say that. If you actually read what I wrote you would see that I never said that. 3- I don't have sex with him. yes I had sex with him a long time ago and I never did it again THAT WAS MY CHOICE. 4- I cheated with my neighbors husband? umm you like to make up stories to get at me? NICE TRY first of all no I never did that and all you got was a chuckle out of me. 5- I am bitter because he won't leave her? No actually I am not a bitter woman PERIOD. I am a very pleasant person to be around. 6- I am getting pissed off at you attacking me? Don't flatter yourself I don't get pissed off unless something matters and none of what some of you say means anything. 7- I am not running around being all happy about my situation and neither is he. I feel guilt all the time. Our timing was off, plain and simple. You know nothing about him and I. He does love me no matter what you think. so go ahead talk **** again, twist everything I say around to suit what you think and what everybody else in the world thinks and feels...... I really could care less I actually find it quite amusing To Lynna the only sane one here it seems, I wish you the best of luck, you seem very sweet and I hope everything works out for you.
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