Curmudgeon Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Several threads have explored the reasons both men and women choose to stay in bad relationships. For those of us who chose not to, is there anything you miss about your ex? In my case, 13 years after divorce that ended a 25-year marriage, I don't miss the person at all and am quite indifferent to her. However, we were both raised on the same small island, our parents knew one another and there was the shared experience of both knowing the area and having a lot of mutual friends and acquaintances. It was nice to know that if I grappled with trying to recall a name, a business, an event, she could often fill me in, and vice versa, or to mention one and have her know who or what I was talking about. I think it's akin to one of the main reasons I miss my parents, both of whom died going on 20 years ago. There's no longer anyone to ask who's who in old family photos, the name of a place we visited when I was a child, a family recipe, etc. So I ask you, is there anything you miss about your ex?
Trialbyfire Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Three months ago, I would have said that I miss many things. Right now, nothing. It's such a liberating feeling.
EnigmaXOXO Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 For those of us who chose not to, is there anything you miss about your ex? Geez. It may sound awful, but I can’t think of one single thing. Except for maybe his little niece, who lived with us for a few months when his sister was unable to look after her. Tiny little waif of a thing when she was a toddler, but I’d love to see for myself how all grown up she is now.
Touche Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Wow, good question. I can't think of a single thing. I really can't. I've been really trying to come up with even ONE thing and honestly, I can't. My H has it all over my ex. But you did give me an idea for another thread. I'll start it now.
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Never have had an ex... still living with one. And there's nothing about him that I miss.
alphamale Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 So I ask you, is there anything you miss about your ex? which ex are you talking about? Anyways, each woman I dated was different in the sack and had her "specialty". So I just miss the sexual stuff pretty much.
sb129 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 I don't miss anything about my ex's personality, looks, interests, or ability as a BF, but I do miss his little boy sometimes. He will be two soon....He was so cute, and had started to come to me for comfort. Never mind, hopefully Wonderboy and I have our own.
laRubiaBonita Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 i miss the new music he would introduce me to, but on the flip side, we always had to listen to his music, because he said what i liked was crap. and sometimes i miss the spinach pie he made, i have tried but i cannot produce it.
2sunny Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 i miss a lot of things his good looks his tidy ways he did all the shopping decided what we would have for dinner cooking with me constant get togethers with friends and family understanding his work accomplishments but then again my list of what i don't miss about him far outweighs what is listed above - so i still feel relieved that i am on my own.
Trialbyfire Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 While my ex is considered kick-arse good-looking, I no longer think so. If anything, I find him mildly repulsive to look at now. Funny how much the interior makes or breaks your perception of a man.
Lost_in_TN Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 An easy question for me to answer. I miss the companionship of having someone who was once a friend, and liked a lot of the things I liked. It was really easy for us to hang out together and have fun doing most anything. The ONLY other thing is the awesome sex life that we shared, there was a ton of animal magnetism between us. It was the one area where we truly shined bright. That haunts me to this day, but that in itself was not enough to sustain a healthy relationship. (though sometimes I wish it was LOL) Like someone above posted, the bad just simply outweighed the good. For what few things I do truly miss, there are dozens of things that I don't miss. But I figure a part of me will always miss the raw passion we shared.
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