goodguy123 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 I've had a really bad year dealing with my ex and alot of other things and I have just been really sad. So I was thinking about getting a puppy to make me feel better. Plus I haven't had a date in forever and I though it might help. It really is the cutest little puppy, but it is going to be a pretty small dog. So some of my friends say to get it and others think i'm gay or something because i want a small dog. I personally don't like really big dogs, and a small dog would fit my lifestyle better, plus the puppy is adorable. But my self esteem is so low right now, that I don't know if I can handle my friends making fun of me for a small dog, even though I know they are messing with me. I don't think they know how sad I am. Anyone have any advice? And what do you girls think of a guy that has a small dog?
Lizzie60 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Anyone have any advice? And what do you girls think of a guy that has a small dog? I rather be with a guy who has a small dog than a small d*ck ...LOL Seriously...you have to think really hard to get a puppy...he's not a toy... this is a very serious commitment... I agree a small dog is much better in a house than a huge dog...and they don't smell as much LOL So never mind your friends who make fun of you... but remember your puppy is like your child... he will completely depend on you for all his needs... you got to be a good 'puppy dad'... Good luck...
Author goodguy123 Posted July 4, 2007 Author Posted July 4, 2007 Ya I've been thinking hard about it, and I know its a big commitment. I just can't decide.
Trialbyfire Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 If you're uncertain, don't do it. You adopt pets for their lifetimes. With a dog, during the puppy phase, they are a lot of work. Be sure. Okay, I have to be honest on this part. Little dogs are cute but...big dogs are so much better companions. The difference to me is like having a baby or having a friend.
Lizzie60 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Ya I've been thinking hard about it, and I know its a big commitment. I just can't decide. Because this is not for a week or two...it could be for many years... Plus if you live in a small apart. don't get a big dog... a big dog needs lots of space... and I don,t agree that big dogs make better companions...that's silly... small dogs make great companions as well.... and they're not as much trouble to take care of (hygiene-wise)...
sb129 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Some friends if they are going to give you that much grief! Have you told them WHY you want to get a dog? maybe then they will shut up.
Trialbyfire Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Some friends if they are going to give you that much grief! Have you told them WHY you want to get a dog? maybe then they will shut up. If one of my male friends got a little dog, I would be teasing them mercilessly...
norajane Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Are they making fun of you for wanting a dog, or for wanting a small dog? Either way, they can take a flying leap. Who cares what they think? And no, women aren't going to think you're gay for having a small dog. But DO NOT get a dog of any kind if you aren't sure you can commit to taking care of him properly for the next 15 years.
Author goodguy123 Posted July 4, 2007 Author Posted July 4, 2007 Just for having a small dog. I personally don't see what the big deal is, but alot of people have this wierd thing about it i guess.
Tony T Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 I've had a really bad year dealing with my ex and alot of other things and I have just been really sad. So I was thinking about getting a puppy to make me feel better. Plus I haven't had a date in forever and I though it might help. It really is the cutest little puppy, but it is going to be a pretty small dog. So some of my friends say to get it and others think i'm gay or something because i want a small dog. I personally don't like really big dogs, and a small dog would fit my lifestyle better, plus the puppy is adorable. But my self esteem is so low right now, that I don't know if I can handle my friends making fun of me for a small dog, even though I know they are messing with me. I don't think they know how sad I am. Anyone have any advice? And what do you girls think of a guy that has a small dog? If you stop caring what other people think and start living your life exactly like you want to, you might find yourself with a lot better friends and a lot more women chasing after you! If you want the fricken dog, get it and don't give two hoots about what people think. If they thought you were a giraffe, that wouldn't make you a giraffe. GEEZE!
Trialbyfire Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 If you have someone who's sensitive to teasing by his masculine peer group, why would you encourage him to get something that is almost sure-fire to get him teased? All you have to do is sit in on a guy session to understand that the teasing is standard guy-to-guy practice. Think about how they interact when someone gets a haircut or wears a pink shirt, nevermind a small dog. Even myself, I wouldn't hesitate to mercilessly tease one of my male friends about something like this. But then, it's not as if they would be any better with me and I'm female. If I were to get a pink car, I would never hear the end of it but if it was something I really wanted (which I don't), I would still get it.
Yamaha Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 If you want the dog then get it. Your friends are not going to take care of him so why would they care if you have a dog. They are just giving you the business and that you are listening is probably funny ( to them ). Just get the dog if you want him and don't give a flying flip about what others say.
JamesM Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 The size of a dog does not indicate the size of the man. Good grief! I have a neighbor who has rottweilers and another who has a pit bull. Does that make them somehow more masculine or stronger? Not! Does it indicate what type of person they are? Not! Well, in some cases, it DOES indicate that their dog makes them feel more of a man...which indicates THEIR low self esteem. I love all types of dogs. Every dog has its place. Recently I went to a dog show and you would be amazed at what the person looks like as opposed to the dog. I saw a guy who was six foot five and over 300# with a small chihuahua. Meanwhile I saw a gray haired lady who was barely 120# soaking wet and five foot tall...she had a Great Dane. (Guess who was walking who?). Then I saw a lady who owned a pug...and yes, she did look like him:D. I saw a man with a Japanese Chin (a small dog that resembles a hairy Cavalier Spaniel. It has long flowing hair around the face and ears). Guess what? The man who owned that one was also over six feet...with long flowing gray hair and a long gray beard...no kidding! Yes, I took pictures of all of these combinations. And I also saw men with pits and similar breeds...and yes, they looked like the type who would own them. So, there is no law that says real men can't own small dogs and real women can't own big dogs. Now, the question becomes are YOU prepared for a dog? I own a boxer (do I look like a boxer? ), and she is work. Not as much, because over ten years of experience with boxers has taught me much. However, if I went and bought a small dog, I would have new things to learn. If I went and bought a pit bull, I would have new things to learn. Each dog has its characteristics. Choose the dog that fits your character and lifestyle...this is one of the most important things to make your life with a dog easier and fun. But all dogs require training, attention, and money (figure at least $1000 per year). If you work all day, who will take care of the dog? Do you plan on training this dog? What kind of small dog do you like? Where will you get it from? A reliable breeder is best. Do a lot of research BEFORE buying the dog. Or even consider adopting one from the local humane society. (Better yet go to http://www.petfinder.com for dogs in your area). Why do you want a dog? Because you have low self esteem? Because you need a friend? Small dogs live for fifteen years. Are you prepared for that? Dogs are good friends, but they do require work. And yes, many people have successfully gotten dogs during times of depression, and these dogs have helped them cope with life. You and only you can make the decision. And if your friends' (or so-called friends) are influencing your decision, then you do need to work on your self esteem and THEN choose what YOU want. From personal experience, I can say that when you know you are making your own decisions...and not being influenced to make a decision you do not like, then you will be going in the right direction of building your self esteem. Funny things is..you can choose what they want, but you won't be happy , and they will not respect you any more than if you simply chose what you wanted in the first place.
Tony T Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 If you have someone who's sensitive to teasing by his masculine peer group, why would you encourage him to get something that is almost sure-fire to get him teased? All you have to do is sit in on a guy session to understand that the teasing is standard guy-to-guy practice. Think about how they interact when someone gets a haircut or wears a pink shirt, nevermind a small dog. Even myself, I wouldn't hesitate to mercilessly tease one of my male friends about something like this. But then, it's not as if they would be any better with me and I'm female. If I were to get a pink car, I would never hear the end of it but if it was something I really wanted (which I don't), I would still get it. There is simply no way any human being should let the reaction of others govern what he feels is right for his life. This guy needs new friends in a bad way. Good friends don't tease someone about a dog they want...at least not educated, mature ones. Now, country, redneck types may do this and these only react positively to people who stand up to what they want to do. It is a decision that we make to be affected by the opinions of others. In many cases, yes, we ought to listen to others and take their viewpoints into consideration....but in our choice of a small dog....as being wimpish....that's otherworldly...that's even too stupid for rednecks to come up with. This is a group of real uneducated worms coming up with this stuff. I don't see how friends like that could be valuable to anyone.
Lizzie60 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Well, in some cases, it DOES indicate that their dog makes them feel more of a man...which indicates THEIR low self esteem. This is sooo true... I respect people who do what they want and don't give a 'hoot' about what other say... Who really got a say in someone else's life? People who make fun of a guy with a small dog are just plain losers themselves with low self esteem or plain arrogant a**holes. Who needs friends like that?
Trialbyfire Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 There is simply no way any human being should let the reaction of others govern what he feels is right for his life. This guy needs new friends in a bad way. Good friends don't tease someone about a dog they want...at least not educated, mature ones. Now, country, redneck types may do this and these only react positively to people who stand up to what they want to do. It is a decision that we make to be affected by the opinions of others. In many cases, yes, we ought to listen to others and take their viewpoints into consideration....but in our choice of a small dog....as being wimpish....that's otherworldly...that's even too stupid for rednecks to come up with. This is a group of real uneducated worms coming up with this stuff. I don't see how friends like that could be valuable to anyone. While I fully agree that people should not let others govern their preferences, here is a standard interaction between twenty-something year old guys. If you are secure enough to handle this type of teasing, fine. If you're asking on an internet forum if it's okay, I think maybe you don't like the teasing much... Realistic scenario 1. Guy 1 walks in with a pink shirt. Guy 2: Wow, that thuits you... (include appropriate body language) Guy 3: Going to the Gay Pride Parade? Guy 4: Ahahahahahhaa.... Unrealistic scenario 2: Guy 1 walks in with a pink shirt. Guy 2: Hey, pink looks nice on you. You should wear that colour more often. Guy 3: Where did you get that shirt? It's hawt! Guy 4: Nice cut on that shirt. Cuffs are the perfect length.
sb129 Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 If one of my male friends got a little dog, I would be teasing them mercilessly... LOL! Yes, i totally see your point, and I know what guys are like. Wonderboy is no angel when it comes to merciless teasing! But if it means that much to him, surely they would see that? Or surely he can see that its only teasing, and nothing more?
Trialbyfire Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 LOL! Yes, i totally see your point, and I know what guys are like. Wonderboy is no angel when it comes to merciless teasing! But if it means that much to him, surely they would see that? Or surely he can see that its only teasing, and nothing more? Of what I've seen of most guys, they only support each other in decisions which are life-threatening or life-changing. Beyond that, everything else is fair game.
McFadden Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 I know a guy who is a 'macho acting' guy and he has a teacup chihuaha and no one has ever mentioned it as far as I know..he has a small apartament so he got a small dog, duh. I think the macho thing to do is get the dog and walk it defiantly in front of your friends on a pink, rhinestone covered leash. Kidding about the last part.
Woggle Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 I'm far from a wimpy or metrosexual guy and I got a kitten when I was single so a small dog is no big deal. Tell your friends to shut their mouths about it.
a4a Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 Hell I have had many a small dog that would mangle a pit if given a chance to do so. You want a dog that fits your lifestyle. Just remember it is usually a 15 year or more commitment.... not a disposable item. Adopt one..... Besides chicks dig dudes with adopted dogs. :D:D google petfinder.
katiebour Posted July 7, 2007 Posted July 7, 2007 Your friends might tease initially, but once you get the dog, they will play with it all the time whenever they are over. I like a guys with pets- I love pets myself and so it's something we have in common. My parents shocked the hell out of me and got a pair of Maltese puppies after 20 years of no pets. The little guy, Sammy, sits on my dad's shoulder when he's sitting in a chair, and my dad calls him his parrot. Those dogs will probably never be as big as my cats, but they are very cute. Although they smell, well, like dogs... blech I'm a cat person, and so is my b/f.
Lynna Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 You know, a lot of women prefer small dogs, they are cute and cuddly and baby-like. So a small dog would not only fit well in a small apartment, be easy to travel with, and be a great companion, but they might also be a great way to meet women! That said, it is a long-term committment, so only get one if you are ready for it as everyone else said.
doiask42much Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 There is simply no way any human being should let the reaction of others govern what he feels is right for his life. This guy needs new friends in a bad way. Good friends don't tease someone about a dog they want...at least not educated, mature ones. Now, country, redneck types may do this and these only react positively to people who stand up to what they want to do. It is a decision that we make to be affected by the opinions of others. In many cases, yes, we ought to listen to others and take their viewpoints into consideration....but in our choice of a small dog....as being wimpish....that's otherworldly...that's even too stupid for rednecks to come up with. This is a group of real uneducated worms coming up with this stuff. I don't see how friends like that could be valuable to anyone. It would be my kneejerk reaction to laugh at and/or tease a guy with a small dog, even though I like them myself and find them cute. Most guys I know would tease a guy for having a small dog also. It's intended to be good-natured ribbing, and the assumption is that the guy can handle it. Maybe I and all the people I know are uneducated and immature, but most of them talk way worse smack than that and you have to be able to let it roll off your back to be part of the group, I guess. I observe this with some of my bf's friends/peer groups and guys I've known in the past. Many of them teased ME too, and you just have to be able to roll with the punches and dish it back, and they generally think you're awesome if you manage to do this. Rightly or wrongly, I do assume owners of pit bulls and rottweilers to be "tougher," but I'd think that about a female owner also. I do think at the end of the day, you should get what you want, but I do also think you shouldn't take people's remarks to heart so much. I think the question here is more about your level of commitment to owning a dog, especially a puppy. It's truly like having a baby. I've been there. Many sleepless nights filled with whining and barking!
doiask42much Posted July 9, 2007 Posted July 9, 2007 Of what I've seen of most guys, they only support each other in decisions which are life-threatening or life-changing. Beyond that, everything else is fair game. Very true! Succinct and elegantly put.
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