bhoffers Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 I have been pursuing a new girl who is 10 years older than me, but I usually date women 10 years younger than me. The age difference is not the problem, it is her daughter. Her daughter is about to turn sixteen and we have only met once, and I was like a deer in headlights on that first meeting. I did not know what to say, so I said nothing, absolutely nothing. Now the daughter hates me and her mom is not willing to commit because of her daughter feeling towards me. I think that her daughter hated me before we met. Since I was suppose to take them both out on mothers day, but that morning I woke and I was sick. I reluctantly canceled. What can I do to reconcile with the daughter?
high_boost Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 are you trying to say you were attracted to her daughter?
LoveLace Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 Why exactly were you so stumped? Did you know the daughter existed before meeting her, or was it a surprise? Did you feel a lot of pressure when meeting her, as though it was a big step in the relationship? Tell them you were just nervous, your sorry, and make it up to them with a dinner. That is, if they are willing to accept. If you have strong feelings for this woman, you'll have to convince her to just overcome this and make it right together...but if you were starting at her daughter as though to be undressing her with your eyes...in that case your probably toast.
Author bhoffers Posted July 5, 2007 Author Posted July 5, 2007 I am 33, and no I am not attracted to the daughter. That is just wrong. I am more than twice her age, and I have a daughter that is almost 13. I would not have a problem kicking anyones ass that looks at my daughter wrong! The only thing that I want from the daughter is acceptance for the pending relationship with the mother. To answer the legitimate posting yes I knew about her daughter before hand. Yes I did feel a lot of pressure when I did first meet her. I will give you a little bit more history. I worked with Tessa, and I thought she was very attractive and a free spirit. We flirted for a while, and I eventually asked her out. We worked Wednesday-Saturday, and Sunday was an ideal day to go out. I thought that it would be great to take them out for Mothers Day since Tessa does not make as much money as I did. I wanted to take them out for sushi and take them to see Spiderman 3. Unfortunately I woke up with a sore throat, and I could barely speak. Amanda (the daughter) was looking forward to meeting me at that point, but when I broke the date I think Amanda took offense to it. Tessa and I would go out after work, and have some cocktails. Tessa would be pulled away when Amanda would call and needed her to come home and cook dinner, but Amanda was asking probing questions also, that really was not her business (ie: Who are you with? Have you kissed him?). Amanda knew who she was with, and the kissing is really none of her business. I have dated women with kids before, but none of them older than my daughter. I can usually amuse kids, but never had experience with teenagers. Tessa have never dated anybody from work before, and that was another obstacle, but I was recently fired. The firing had nothing to do with the relationship.
Author bhoffers Posted July 5, 2007 Author Posted July 5, 2007 I am sorry if I seem apprehensive. I tried to make the initial message as simplistic as possible, and in my efforts it may have seem that I liked the daughter. THAT IS NOT THE CASE!!!
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