SadForever Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 I feel like I could wait forever for him. My heart can't let go of the hope that some day/some way we will be together again. I've heard of that happening to couples...sometimes getting back together after decades of being apart. Does anyone else hold a similar hope? He told me he'd never stop loving me, and he never wants to say goodbye forever. We broke up for many reasons: distance, career, age difference... NOT because we stopped loving eachother. It's been 5 months since it ended. We still keep in contact on a regular basis. I love him soo much. I am trying to keep living my life without concern of when/if we will ever be together...but I think what's holding me together is keeping faith that we'll eventually end up together. I haven't told him this and I won't! Does anyone think I sound crazy? Thanks!!
ClearFocus Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 You dont sound crazy at all. I know that feeling of hope and hanging on. My case is slightly different as it was not mutual but the longing is the same. Do u think if u dnt let go off that hope that u will one day be together, it might be hard to ever be in another relationship? Or is holding on what feels right to you?
corpusdelecti Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 I don't think you sound crazy....you sound like pretty much everyone else around here! I have heard of people getting back together months, years, decades later. But I don't think you should wait forever, even if you think you can. First, there is a chance that you won't get back together. Do you really want to spend the rest of your life missing opportunities for happiness because you're waiting on something that will never happen?? Second, if he truly loves you, having experiences during this time apart won't make that stop. Every friendship or relationship makes you who you are. You will be a better person for them. Whether it's to find your real true love or prepare yourself for the day you get back with this one, you need to get out there and live your life. Believe me, I've struggled with this myself and things worked out for the better in the end. (I could never have been happy with him, I see that now!)
hrtbroken99 Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 I feel like I could wait forever for him. My heart can't let go of the hope that some day/some way we will be together again. I've heard of that happening to couples...sometimes getting back together after decades of being apart. Does anyone else hold a similar hope? He told me he'd never stop loving me, and he never wants to say goodbye forever. We broke up for many reasons: distance, career, age difference... NOT because we stopped loving eachother. It's been 5 months since it ended. We still keep in contact on a regular basis. I love him soo much. I am trying to keep living my life without concern of when/if we will ever be together...but I think what's holding me together is keeping faith that we'll eventually end up together. I haven't told him this and I won't! Does anyone think I sound crazy? Thanks!! no you dont sound crazy sound pretty normal to me;) funny thing, your story sounds a lot like mine we also ended cuz of distance, career, school. etc. yet still loved one another although our breakup was mutual, i would say he wanted it more than me, therefore, here I am still hurt I do not keep in contact with my X I think it is normal to have those thoughts that may be you may reconcile one day however if the opportunity presents itself for you to meet someone else, I would say you should give it a try
Chinook Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 I feel like I could wait forever for him. My heart can't let go of the hope that some day/some way we will be together again. I've heard of that happening to couples...sometimes getting back together after decades of being apart. Does anyone else hold a similar hope? <snip> Does anyone think I sound crazy? Thanks!! No, you don't sound crazy at all. Sometimes when a relationship ends where we have felt so much, the only way we can deal with the immediate trauma of losing so much, is by hanging on to the hope that someday, things will work out and bring you back together again. I think it pretty much happens to everyone if they're not the one who walks away from the relationship. The grieving process is such that as human beings, our emotions happen in such a way as to only allow us to experience as much pain as we can deal with at anyone time. This is why for some people the grieving process is long and drawn out and for others, not so. We only deal with what we can and as time goes by it gets easier to deal with the full magnitude of what has happened and eventually, the heart lets go of the hope because it knows that it isn't going to happen. It takes time to adjust to losing a loved one and it takes time to adjust to being single again. 5 months is no time at all really. I think you will find, once your emotions are in synch with what's practically happening, you'll work out that you don't need to hold on to the hope of things changing because by that time, you'll be living a nice full, single life without that person.
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