What constitutes a "Break"

[Alan2677]

A brief (hopefully) background ....the question is at the bottom if you want to skip all of the background.

 

- Gf and I have been in a committed relationship for 1.5 years.

-The relationship was born out of us having an affair with each other

-I got a divorce 2.5 years before her

-I dated during some of that time

-After dating I wanted GF because no one else even came close

-She Got a divorce (above mentioned) 1.5 years ago

-A month ago she deceides she needs to date other men because she is afraid that she is "jumping from the frying pan into the fire" and wants no regrets.

-In response I started dating again

 

Well..we end up in couples therapy (big shock) with her shrink and we all mutually deceide that a one month "break" is in order. To me that means cease all contact and communication.

She said she was going to stop dating. Her shrink told me that I was to stop dating and I protested somewhat, but thought it may be good for me.

Upon the end of the session, my GF told her shrink that she likes working out in the gym with me, and her shrink said "only work out...no relationship talk". Before I could ponder that I said "OK"

 

Question: Does a break mean absolutely NO contact whatsover or what?

[Fanny]

Alan, what is your thought on this therapist? Do you like him?

 

Most therapists would refuse to see a couple when they've seen one of the party because, of course, they aren't approaching the situation without bias. Normally I think that work gets referred out.

[Alan2677]

The therapist is a her and I do like her, we had to been to her about a year ago. My therapist knows her and suggested I go, but she does know much more about my GF than she knows about me.

[Fanny]

If you like her then never mind. If you felt rushed though, you should definitely speak up!

 

To me a break is no contact, although I can't imagine what benefit is going to be derived from this.