DLFresh Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 Hello - any help would be greatly appreciated - My girlfriend broke it off with me about a month ago - some days, like today, i just can't get her out of my head. If anyone has any tips on dealing with the bad days, please, please share - it usually helps - thank you so much!!!!
funkybassplayer Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 Hi sorry to hear that, a month is not along time and if your in contact with her, you will never get over it. Cut the cntact, greive and feel the emotions that have to come out, and then you will slowley get better. It took me about 2 months before i started to feel myself again. hang in there.
Author DLFresh Posted July 3, 2007 Author Posted July 3, 2007 There is no contact between us and the good thing is, she lives in another city now, so I won't run into her more than likely - It's just one of those bad days - hearing from people like yourself really does help - thank you again!
ClearFocus Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 I know the feeling completly, im goin thru it right now as we speak! I try and have as mush distractions around me as possible. Been reading a lot 'How to mend a broken heart' by Paul McKenna.. exercising anything to take my mind off her. But ultimately there is gna be days when it seems harder than others. Like Usher said.."let it burn" Good luck mate
Chinook Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 I'm reading that book too. Sometimes it helps. Sometimes it doesn't. Guess it's a cliché but only time will really help.
ClearFocus Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 I know what u mean, it really depends on your mood. Sometimes it seems like a survival manual others I read it and my mind wanders.. Back to her!! Why does she get so much of my thinking time for free????
tinke Posted July 4, 2007 Posted July 4, 2007 DLF: good job, keep reading!!! those self-help books can be very helpful, and distracting, as you've said. at the least, they bring a different light to your thoughts. remember, YOU are the prize! please give yourself time. what you are feeling is what most of us have felt and the time frame, I believe, depends on how much you focus on YOU in this, rather than her. please trust, that in time, the gut-wrenching pain will cease. you will discover that you are important, and she lost out also. there was a period(maybe 2.5 months), he was on my mind daily. at first, constantly, as i re-played every interaction...quite franklly, i was drained!!! but, as i kept reading an assortment of books, i regained strength and a different outlook. it went from constant thoughts, to less frequent, and less intensity. i now feel sadness for the loss of the relationship, but i realize, i cannot do the work for him. both have to be equally commited, such was not the case, in the end. please know that it WILL get easier...grieve, and face it, and then ALLOW yourself to move on...it will happen. wishing you restful sleep.
JulieJ Posted July 5, 2007 Posted July 5, 2007 The thing that got me through a very bad break-up was lots and lots of planning. Plan nights out with your friends, weekend trips, or parties to give yourself something to look forward to. You will still think about her a lot, but having something to look forward to will help you to start enjoying things without her. Hope you feel better soon.
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