KittenMoon Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 My mother just called with some interesting news: according to her friend's daughter- who is friend's with my oldest friend who is getting married in a couple weeks- I'm bringing a date to this wedding. Which was news to me! Anyways, my mother was subtley pressing me, asking if I was dating someone (I'm not known for my forthrightness sometimes, and the way she initially found out I was dating my ex in college was the nearly exact same scenario), but of course I am not. In fact, the idea of dating still makes me want to burst into tears. I keep waiting for this reaction to lessen or fade, but it doesn't. It's been almost a year and a half and I still feel unable to move forward. When it comes to dating, I feel like I just want to be left alone. Does this EVER pass?!
laRubiaBonita Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 Does this EVER pass?! it does..... you just haven't found anyone that can you can stand yet. tell your mother you are going solo.... maybe throw out there that there could be available men there (it might entertain her thoughts long enough to keep her at bay for a little bit).
funkybassplayer Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 it will get better, and when it does you'll be ready to meet someone fr the right reasons. Good on you for not doing a rebound.
Author KittenMoon Posted July 3, 2007 Author Posted July 3, 2007 tell your mother you are going solo.... maybe throw out there that there could be available men there (it might entertain her thoughts long enough to keep her at bay for a little bit). Oh, she doesn't care if I go alone or not- and she was entertaining the idea of me meeting someone there. It's true though- I just can't stand anyone I meet in that way.
laRubiaBonita Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 just try and have fun... be yourself and relax. things will happen when they are supposed to. just keep an open mind and experience new things... try and gain a different perspective on things.
hemorrhagic1igands Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 (I'm not known for my forthrightness sometimes, People will like you a lot more if you open up, and stop hiding things. Hiding things is as bad as lying, in my book. Just a suggestion.
child_of_isis Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 I don't think you need to date in order to move forward. Matter of fact, I think that moving forward should be all about you.
Author KittenMoon Posted July 3, 2007 Author Posted July 3, 2007 I don't think you need to date in order to move forward. Matter of fact, I think that moving forward should be all about you. I mean specifically moving forward in a relationship sense because I don't want to be lonely forever!
laRubiaBonita Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 I mean specifically moving forward in a relationship sense because I don't want to be lonely forever! well you need to be able to not feel you will doomed to lonliness if for what ever reason you never find a special someone. even if you do get into a relationship, your happiness and sense of self should be in your control, not dependant on another person or lack of. selfpity and unhappiness tend to seep through your pores and can be detected by other, eve if you think you are hiding it well.
Author KittenMoon Posted July 3, 2007 Author Posted July 3, 2007 well you need to be able to not feel you will doomed to lonliness if for what ever reason you never find a special someone. even if you do get into a relationship, your happiness and sense of self should be in your control, not dependant on another person or lack of. selfpity and unhappiness tend to seep through your pores and can be detected by other, eve if you think you are hiding it well. I have plenty of friends, plenty to do, and I'm not overly self pitying and by no means overly insecure- But none of this makes up for the connection of a "special someone". And that feels like an evre present hole even when all other aspects of life are ok. I want a best friend, a partner, and a lover- I'm just that kinda person and I think that's A-ok. (And if I were the type to be dependant on having someone there, I'd have had plenty of chances already- but I'm not that type!)
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