birdman985 Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 Me and my girlfriend had been going out for about a year. 6 months into the relationship i started threatening to break up with her because of stupid arguments we had( i mean REALLY stupid). Everytime i threatened this, she would say no it was her fault and she didnt want to break up. Towards the end of our college school year we finally broke up after the fighting just got dumb. I mean honestly we would fight over a candy bar lol. Anyways i realized i was dumb and really want this girl back. But the prob is i checked her myspace and some random guy has been chatting with her and shes been chatting back(she sent him a picture of 2 people making out, and a kiss face). I asked her about it and she said it was nothing. It shouldnt really matter ne how, considered we arent dating. But honestly i cant stop thinking about this girl and need her back. I figured id just take off the summer, and wen she comes back to school we will get back together. But its just really killin me to even think that she could be doing stuff with another guy, and i may not get a chance to show her how much i truly do care about her. This kid she is talkin to lives far away and they cant see eachother because of it, and doesnt go to college with her like i do. But its just killin me to think she could be with him. I talked to her after we broke up and told her i still love her, and she agreed but said she needs 2 find herself. What should i do, im lost...
neveragain2493 Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 i know it is very hard for you to see your girlfriend with another guy.. i know exactly how that feels. first off, i know this was in the past, but you shouldn't have given threats to break up with your girlfriend to make her start apologizing. if you love her as much as you say you do, do NOT do that in a relationship. agree to disagree, and compromise your differences. we learn from our mistakes. next, think about it: what are the chances your ex and this random guy from myspace will ever be together? i'm sure he won't have much respect for her if she's sending him pix of people making out. it sounds to me like your ex is just "finding herself" by just going from guy to guy.. right now she needs time to think. third, me being a girl myself: if you want a girl to want you, do NOT ask about the 'random guy' or keep telling her that you love her, that is the number one way to make a girl want to distance herself from you as far as humanly possible, trust me. the best way to make this girl interested again, believe it or not, is to not sound all that interested. if you have acted like you've moved on, she will stop and wonder "is something wrong? he doesn't seem to want me anymore..." and will come to you about it. if this girl truly wants you, i'm sure she will come back. there are plenty fish in the sea. but if she just continues to be this way, it wasn't meant to be. you have the rest of your life ahead of you. hope i helped :]
JulieJ Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 As hard as it might be, I think you should do what neveragain recommended and stop trying to win her back while the two of you are apart. Try it for the rest of the summer and then see how things go when you are both back at school and you bump into her. If you still have feelings for her when you see her again, then talk to her about getting back together.
nandinim Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 The most important part of any relationship is "communication" and not just doing it but doing it right way. At the position you are in I think best to do is what was pointed out by neveragain. Also remember that the girl is trying to "find herself". Just let her go her way and may be she will find out that after all those arguments also it wasnt bad either. And threatening to breakup is too lame..If you were to make it work you should have sat and had a good talk about it. I do it with my partner a lot and talking does help a lot.
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