flowergirl Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 Ok, so I'm trying very, very hard not to be irritated about my boyfriend never, ever coming over to my house to see my family (see "Stupid Philosophies), but on top of that, he is having a lot of trouble seeing himself committed anytime soon. I know he loves me, it's just that, when I was trying to talk to him last night about moving the relationship forward, he said that we should just be happy we're together and not compare our relatinship to others. I'm not doing this, I'm just thinking that at our ages, he's 27 and I'm 32, that moving to the next stage of a 1 1/2 year relationship should be a resaonable topic of discussion. I understand people move on their own timelimes, but what's the deal, he's perfectly cntent to sit in his messy bachelor apt, drinking his beer, playing the occassional video game, avoiding my family like the plague and living in mortal fear of commitment. Am I being too impatient and unreasonable or this relationship on it's last leg? I love him but this is really getting to me.
melodymatters Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 You asked and answered your own question unfortunately : "but what's the deal, he's perfectly cntent to sit in his messy bachelor apt, drinking his beer, playing the occassional video game, avoiding my family like the plague and living in mortal fear of commitment" That IS the deal, he IS perfectly content. I had a guy like this who lived in an actual wooden shack with no stove, washer or dryer, but he wouldn't move into my large modern 3 bdrm house because he LIKED living alone and liked the country, apparently MORE than he liked me. So I eventually ended it. Actions speak louder than words, forget what they say and watch what they DO.
littlepiggy1 Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 It could be an age thing, too. He's 5 years younger, so he probably feels he has more time to move things along. I don't think you're being impatient or anything. It just sounds like you're at two different places in your lives and you want more than he does right now. The family thing sounds odd, but I guess I'd need to know more before I judge what that's all about.
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