LeeLoo Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 I ended up getting back together with the guy I was engaged too for a while. To be honest I wanted to believe that it could work and we were meant to be together as he was my first boyfriend. There was also the slight problem that I was homeless and had nowhere else to go. Have you ever gotten back together with an ex?
Pyro Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 I ended up getting back together with the guy I was engaged too for a while. To be honest I wanted to believe that it could work and we were meant to be together as he was my first boyfriend. There was also the slight problem that I was homeless and had nowhere else to go. Have you ever gotten back together with an ex? Technically twice, but I only count one time. It did not work out either time. The first time we broke up after a year and a half and that lasted a month and then we got back together and 45 days later, that was over. The second time she cheated on me after a year and a half and we tried to work things out, but she was unwilling to make any sacrifices, so about after a month of trying to reconcile, we ended it all together. So IME, its not the best idea to try and reconcile with an ex.
halfarock Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 I did, sort of. With my current girlfriend a few years ago now we sort of broke up. Actually I figured that it wasn’t going to work and just stopped going to see her, stopped calling her. A little over a year later I ran into her again. Our relationship afterwards has been much stronger than before.
Citizen Erased Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 Well during High School I was with my boyfriend, then I broke up with him. I started dating another guy but about 4 months before I finished HS I got back with my ex and we have been together for almost 3 years. We now live together and are perfectly happy... if I'm not wanting to throttle him that is
mental_traveller Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 I ended up getting back together with the guy I was engaged too for a while. To be honest I wanted to believe that it could work and we were meant to be together as he was my first boyfriend. There was also the slight problem that I was homeless and had nowhere else to go. Have you ever gotten back together with an ex? Yes, and it didn't work - things were even worse than before. I don't know anyone who has got back with an ex and had it work out.
Trialbyfire Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 No, although the ex and I did go through a period of adjustment after D-day. Beyond that, no way. People are exes and should remain as such. Having said that, it doesn't mean that all exes are scum of the earth, it simple means that there's incompatibility.
Lizzie60 Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 I first left him in May...and he begged me to try again in November...he left the girl he was with to take me back... The third week... I was out for good... didn't work. It's been almost 6 years now. He then hooked back with the girl... they're getting married next month. After almost 2 years, we started to see each other occasionally for sex. We did up till about last winter when he asked her to marry him... We have talked on the phone... but I know he's paralysed ... he is sooo scared I will tell her everything... that's why he hasn't seen me since.. but I know he will come back after the wedding... I know him tooooo well.
Yamaha Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 It usually doesn't work out because both sides are unwilling to change enough and the reasons you broke up are still present. I guess if you both realized the value of the other person and loved each other it might have a chance but the odds are extremely small.
orangehose Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 Didn't actually 'break up', was just pretty set on it, brought it up with him, and then he convinced me to give it a try for a little longer... Needless to say, things were worse after that, and we broke up for good a few months later. The only reason I could see it working out after a breakup is if the reason for the breakup was PURELY some external extenuating circumstance that then changes (i.e. 'my parents were dead set against you, but now they changed their mind, or I decided I don't care about their opinion'... or 'you're moving away and i don't want to do long-distance or follow you there')... But even in those cases, oftentimes there's some intrinsic relationship issue that makes it not worth one person's while to oppose their parents or follow you across the country, etc. So I think the cases of a post-breakup reunion working are rare indeed, even when the dumper's stated reasons seem mostly circumstantial.
crzyblndstar Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 I was with my ex for 6 years. We started dating my junior year in high school. We broke up because I was young and had been with him for so long that I wanted to go and experience life. There were a few other issues as well. But, three years later we had both grown up and matured into 2 grown adults and now we are back together and happier than we ever have been. We just bought a house and aer raising my son together. We never stopped loving or caring for the other person, but we needed those years to grow into the people we are now.
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