brandie32 Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 I had dated a guy for a bit and we had sex on the 4th date. Befor I had any type of intelligent conversation. So the entire dynamic changed after sex. However it was really good and I just love spending time with him we have a amazing time, lots of laughing--so it is nice. But after we have sex he sleeps with me for couple of hours and then leaves, due to huge dog at home. But then I usually do not hear from him for a couple of days. Then we talk either I bring up a date or he does--- go to dinner or I cook dinner at my home, we go for walks ...then we have sex then he does not call for a couple of days-- then the cycle continues. The thing is I think he really likes me last night I cooked a great dinner we watched a movie I gave him a great back massage we talked about work. I actually hit a record in sales and he said he was prowd of me!! that ment so much considering i work for my family and I usually do not get pats on the back. We fooled around, no sex, that time of the month. He slept over well from 10pm to 3am. Now I probably will not hear from him for a couple of days. UGGGHHH!! However this guy he is from NYC, we dated once, keeps his boat on Lake George and he invited me to the Lake for the 4th. He is successful and good future, but not that in to him. Compared to the guy I do like who has no college and owns a restaurant and ignores me after sex. he is who I want to spend the 4th with. Should I just call him, should I go to Lake George, should I ask him why he does not like me? Should I ask him if he is playing me? Should I just continue to go with the flow? But then i am afraid of getting hurt, well more hurt. Should I just forget about him and buy a new car? I just wish that he really liked me called all the time and spent more time with me...why is all of this going on. I realize I should have taked a little more with him befor sex. But I felt weird the first time things just got heated up really quickly and i was not planning on having sex with him . Any ideas??? I am usually in better control than this. I have a sucessful career great house great car great dog, but not the guy....hmmm
Star Gazer Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 The thing is I think he really likes me... Why? we had sex on the 4th date. Befor I had any type of intelligent conversation. But after we have sex he sleeps with me for couple of hours and then leaves But then I usually do not hear from him for a couple of days. Then we talk either I bring up a date last night I cooked a great dinner ... I gave him a great back massage The guy you really like is getting what he wants - sex, home cooked meals, even massages - while being able to leave shortly after having sex with you, and completely ignoring you for a few days until he decides he wants to have sex with you again... without any effort whatsoever on his part. Why? Because you're letting him. You teach people how to treat you, and you're making it WAY too easy for him to get exactly what he wants without any commitment. You're chasing him. Make him work for it. You deserve it. And he doesn't put in the effort you deserve, find someone who will. (I like the sound of Lake George guy, myself...)
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