jackie Posted February 19, 2003 Posted February 19, 2003 we broke up and tried to be friends, i still felt pain so i told him not to have anything to do with me, now i do not know what to do with my time, i do work full itme and i have 3 kids, i am also new here, have a few friends but he was the major one in my life. I miss him calling me, I miss laughing on the phone, I just miss him big time, I know that if we are friends that i will continue to hurt, I know that he will be dating again soon and that will hurt me also. what can I do (not to forget him) but to let time pass eazier?
Tony T Posted February 19, 2003 Posted February 19, 2003 Stay busy, meet other friends, do things with the friends you have, eat well, get plenty of sleep, do the things you've always wanted to do, find other people to talk and laught with on the phone, heal and forget about the bastard!
jackie Posted February 19, 2003 Posted February 19, 2003 Hi Tony, I wanted to ask you what it is that gets people to be with people that htey know they will not get, My ex (above) is interested in this chick and he is also interested in another chick that happens to be my best firend, besides being unhealthy why does this happen? I do not understand because I am not like that and this is the first person that i met that is like that. Not really for any other reason but it confuses me big time. I asked him but there was no answer, could someone answer this? thank you
Tony T Posted February 19, 2003 Posted February 19, 2003 YOU ASK: "I wanted to ask you what it is that gets people to be with people that htey know they will not get..." Everybody loves a challenge. The number one reason it happens is because people just want the challenge of seeing if they can get someone who seems impossible to get. Many people seek the unattainable because it's something to do romantically while they are sorting out certain feelings. They are scared to death of love and intimacy so it's very safe to seek those people who they can't have or who they know nothing will every happen with. Just let one of those committmentphobics catch somebody and they die of fright. It's just plain human nature, generally, to want what you can't have. That's just the way out maker cut us out. I hope that gives you at least a little insight.
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