sbass1969 Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 I am recently divorced (officially 3 months now). I met this girl at the beginning of April. We instantly hit it off and had so many things in common and had a great time together. We only went out on a few dates (4 to be exact) and I admit, I was definitely pursuing her and she was very receptive to my pursuits. She got a temporary job assignment that was going to put her out of the state for a few months, coming home every other weekend. When she found out about the job, she told me that the timing sucked because she really liked me and wanted to continue to hang out and get to know me, despite her being gone for a few months. Things were moving quickly between us and quite frankly, it scared me, so I quit calling her and when she inquired as to what happened, I just told her that things had moved too fast...she was a great person and deserved better. She responded and agreed with me that things were moving too fast. She encouraged me to date others (being that I'm recently divorced) and wished me nothing but the best. About a week later, she sent me another email and explained that the reason she was so honest and upfront with me about how she felt about me and wanting us to get to know each other better was because she had an ex-boyfriend who was killed in a car accident a few years ago and she lives with the guilt that so many things were left unsaid. Because of that, she is a very open person and tries to let those who are important to her know how she feels about them. At first I thought she was lying...because she had not mentioned this previously. I didn't respond to her email and just went on with my life. So, it's been 2 1/2 months now since this happened...and today I got an email from her out of the blue. It was sent to several of her friends and I was included on the distribution list. It was an email letting everyone know that she had finally posted all of the pics from her recent travels and to go check them out. The link was to her MySpace page (which I didn't know she had one) and there are several pictures of her with a new guy and he's left several comments on her page about how much he likes her and how lucky he is to have her in his life. In addition to that, there is a pic of the guy she used to date that was killed in the accident. I feel like such an ass now for not responding to her email and just blowing her off! Why do you think I was included on the distribution list? Do you think it was an accident or do you think she's intentionally trying to show me that she's met someone else and has moved on? They really seem into each other and it's making me question why I ended things with her. She really was an awesome girl and I shouldn't have treated her the way I did cause she was nothing but sweet and kind to me. Any advice on what I should do??
Tony T Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 You don't really need advice here. You blew it, so take the consequences and move on. When you decide to arbitrarily judge whether people's words are true or false, unless you have serious credentials and experience as a psychic you make a big mistake...as you did here. You were most likely on the distribution list by accident. She doesn't sound like a lady who would play games with a person's feelings. And if she sent this mail to you intentionally, don't make the SAME mistake you did before by making a screwed up judgment. Just let it go and be advised this girl is not interested in men who don't believe what she says. It's most likely her intentions were good. It's great you got that mail. It was a lesson you needed to learn.
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