budd98 Posted July 1, 2007 Posted July 1, 2007 So I am in a tough situation. I had been dating a girl for 2.4 years and then she wants space. She tells me she doesn't have the feeling anymore. She is 25, me 27. Anyways, I try to play cool with no contact....but she always seems to win with that. She will text me and I wait to respond for 2 hours and then she will say "You only got that now, I just won't text you anymore." So I call and she accuses me of being at a girls house or something. Also, if I don't respond right aways, she will call within 10 minutes. Why does she act this way and always accuse me of being with someone if I don't respond? I had a bad night last night cause I ran into her at the bar. She was mad that I had a cut-off shirt on. I told her that I just came from the gym and I wasn't planning on going out. She tried to ignore me at the bar, but I would catch her watching me to see what I was doing. Afterwards, I asked to talk to her and she kept texting "LEAVE ME ALONE, I'm DONE." So this morning comes and she text's me saying "Hope you had fun with your fag friend and I bet you planned on wearing that cut-off shirt out last night." I never responded and then she calls 5 minutes later. We ended up talking for 50 minutes. I did a bad thing and told her how I felt and that I wanted to make things work. She said I messed it up so bad the last year and she can't get the feelings back. She said she was going to get a different job to save up and move by Christmas. She said there was no point to be here cause all her friends are getting married or married. She said that she wants to find someone to settle down with and that thats what girls want to do especially when they are 25. We talked a little about commitment stuff and I said I would love for her to be standing next to me. She said that I just didn't get it. I have always talked serious with her so I don't get that comment. I explained that I meant being with her forever. So what I am wondering, is why would she talk about all of this with me? If she says she lost all of her feelings, what is the point? Do you think she is triing to hint anything to me by how she is acting? I just need any advice, thanks.
vivrantflo Posted July 1, 2007 Posted July 1, 2007 You definately need to leave her alone. If she's talking about finding someone new, and not having feelings for you.. that usually means she's serious. Especially when she's accusing you of talking to other girls, it's just an obvious clue that she's talking to other guys right now. She yelled at you in public and is acting real childish. I say you grant her her wish, and step out of her life. I know it hurts, but here's where you have to put yourself first. By not talking to her or seeing her, it's gonna give you the chance to heal from the pain, and to move on from the situation. You deserve someone more mature, and someone that will commit to you no matter what status her friends are in. You'll be fine man, just don't talk to her
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