Alkaline Posted July 1, 2007 Posted July 1, 2007 Hey everyone! I thought i should give you some backstory first to my situation, so it makes things easier to understand. I'm an Australian male, i'm 17 years old and am in my final year of High School. I had my first girlfriend about half a year ago - we were close friends who decided to take if further, but i decided early on in the r/ship that it wasn't for me. However, I am now comfortable for having a r/ship, though this time I hope for it to be with someone else. There's a girl two years below who's in my house (if you don't know what a house is, it's like a division of the school eg: gryffindor in harry potter haha) and it basically started out that I found her really attractive. She's not stunning but very cute and innocent, which i find most attractive in women (as opposed to hot and flirty). A friend of mine noticed she was giving me looks, like prolonged glances. I noticed this myself and she would usually look the other way quickly when I noticed. Quite often she glances at me or give small smiles. Sometime's, particularly recently, when she walks past me she would quickly look back over her shoulder. I've made a conscious effort to make sure i'm not looking at her too much, so a lot of this stuff has been noticed by my best friend or out of the corner of my eye. She gets very nervous around me and I too around her. Are these telltale signs of interest? I'm getting this feeling but I don't want to be seeing something that actually isn't there. To do something about this, I asked a good friend who's a girl to subtlely mention my name. Upon mentioning my name, the girl I'm interested in smiled and apprently she seemed interested. My main concern is that i could be reading this wrong. Obviously the best thing to do is to start talking to her (to this stage, it's only been things like thanks or hey or small compliments, but no real conversations yet. As I said it's just a physical attraction at this stage, and i want to make it more). This is mainly because I am really nervous to talk to her. Everytime I'm about to say something, I get worried that she won't respond in the way I will hope (and thus I'll choke (not literally) or something - i'm quite a shy person) or that I might freak her out a bit. Of course it could be the complete opposite - perhaps these signs she's giving me are actually signs of interest, and upon talking to her things would mesh together really well. Now, I've just finished term 2, and annoying I was going to talk to her on the last day of school but i was too late before she left because i was freezing up from nervousness. If I do have some momentum (and it seems I do) then I don't want to lose it over the course of the hols (since girls can lose their crushes quite quickly I've heard). The only options I have until term 3 starts are MSN and mobile phone texting. Mobile phone texting could be a bit sudden since i didn't ask her or her mobile number, and i think it's courtesy to ask for it before you contact someone you like. With MSN though it's a bit different. It's really my only option. I've made some good friends (mostly girls) who I was nervous to talk to away from the net but i was confident on the net, and after that i'm now really good friends with them away from the net. It's not the best method of conversation (which is talking to people face to face) but as I said I have no other choice and I don't want to lose my momentum. So that leaves me with a couple of questions (by the way thanks heaps for reading over this): 1. Are her actions common signs of interest? 2. Is it worth using MSN to not lose any momentum i might have over the holidays, despite msn being a somewhat artificial form of conversation. 3. Should i use any external resources (eg: her friends) to help find out more about how she might feel about me, or to put the good word in for me (eg: subtely suggest for her to talk to me if i talk to her) or could any of this be detrimental? This would be really appreciated if these questions could be answered. It's a unique situation and i just want to take the right path, because she's really attractive and i feel i might have something going for me here. Thanks.
Author Alkaline Posted July 3, 2007 Author Posted July 3, 2007 Anyone? Help would be very appreciated.
The Velvet Vixen Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 It sounds like there's a possibility that she's attracted to you. I don't recommend having her friends "put in a good word" for you. I personally always hated it when guys pulled stuff like that with me. It felt manipulative somehow. Try talking to her on MSN, and asking her casually on there if she wants to see a movie with you or go out to eat together sometime.
PeterJames Posted July 6, 2007 Posted July 6, 2007 Ahhhh, high school romances. Use msn, but make sure you're casual. Don't worry about nervousness, you can't even see her talking to you. The only hard thing is keeping conversations rolling on msn. Girls at that stage in life often want conversations on msn to never stop, and they notice when they do. Next time you get the chance, talk to her in person. Be friendly. You make it seem normal, because once she realizes that it's not awkward to have conversations with you, she'll be more open, and the friendship will grow.
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