sprintlife Posted July 1, 2007 Posted July 1, 2007 Hello, I'm new at this forum so be some easy but to the point on me! Well let me share my story. My great and beautiful girl friend had to move back home for the summer, because her parents wanted her to have a job for the summer. Even tho I said I would take care of everything... I when up 3 weeks ago and hung out and had dinner with her and her parents. After that Her and I when to see a movie and it was great. The next day I was suppose to leave. Well she when to work at 6a.m. and worked until 12 noon. I "left" her house around 10a.m. and waited around for 2 hours and picked her up at her job. So we just have a fun time and I got her home around 11p.m. that night. After I dropped her off I drove an 1 hour and half home. The next day she was bitched out and told that she can't see me. Well the next weekend rolled around and her parents agreed to let her see me this SUNDAY. Well on friday I came up to see her. We had this whole cover up, because we both felt it was best because of her over protected parents. SOME how we get found out and she gets a phone call and told to get home in 1 hour. That alone was kind of a control freak in my mind. I'm not no damagest people that has the look to kill someone.... I'm a project manager for one of the fortune 500 companies. I also am apart of two private respected groups. On top of that I keep my girl friend happy in anyway I can think of. This is the e-mail I received 7 hours ago. It basically broken my heart to read it. I will share it with you guys and I need the truth. [sIZE=2]Mrs. ******** & I wanted to touch bases with you regarding our concerns over Caitlin.[/sIZE] [sIZE=2]We would like to have you put yourself in our shoes for just one moment, and think about how a parent would feel about your current relationship. The one in which your daughter is making you lose sleep most nights of the week. One day you might be the parent of a 19 year old daughter, and find yourself trying to protect her from hurt as much as you are able. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]Think about how you personally would feel about your own daughter if she were to have a history of honesty issues. We don't expect you to know everything we have been through with Caitlin since you have only known her a brief period of time, but we do need you to know that there have been concerns way before you came along. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]We are not viscous / vindictive parents that need to be a part of Caitlin's everyday life. We have lives of our own. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]You do need to understand the current state of her educational needs. We have sat by and watched 3 quarters of grades deteriorate to a point of now changing majors for the 3rd time. We know that she has much more potential than she has shown this past school year, and this has been proven in her high-school academics. Can you understand why we might have concerns for her future?[/sIZE] [sIZE=2]Cailtin has a very difficult time balancing her time wisely, and is very easily distracted. This has been a problem since grade school, and that is why we as parents think we might know her a little better at this moment than you do.[/sIZE] [sIZE=2]We want what every parent wants. To have successful, independent, healthy children, with values that reach beyond physical relationships. We need to see some personal maturity on her part, and she has not fulfilled this aspect. College is a time of personal growth, and that is why we respected her wish to go to college away from Columbus. She wanted to row, which she did, and did very well, but she could not balance school, rowing, and her personal life. It was too much. She had to give up something she loves. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]Trust needs to be earned and we take this issue seriously. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]We have nothing personal against you. You seem to have goals for your future which is commendable. Please help our only daughter realize her future goals. Please respect our wishes, that would lessen the time the two of you spend together, to enable Caitlin to reach her academic needs. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]This is especially important after she returns to school in the fall. This is the last quarter she has to bring her grades up. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]Temporarily, please respect our need to give Cailtin a little communication time out, so she can think about her personal goals. She is a wonderful [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]soul that needs to find her path in life. [/sIZE] [sIZE=2]One last note. Last evenings discovery of Caitlin's wearabouts, came after trying to find her laptop to work on it for her. We then put 2 & 2 together remembering that she had taken her gigantic messenger bag with her to go on an "walk" with a friend of hers. Again, knowing past history leads us to make some what you think might be bad parenting decisions, but we also are very protective of our pride and joy.[/sIZE] [sIZE=2]If you have any questions, please e-mail me. [/sIZE] I don't know what to do or even what my opinions are... By the way I told my girl friend for her to give me her laptop because I don't want her to "Try" to fix it... Reasons why is because I'm Tech Manager for another company... Me... Age: 19 soon to be 20 Not rolled in a college at this time.
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