repax Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 I've known this chick for a while now, and quite frankly she's beautiful and everything, but I know she's out of my leagues, so I was just wondering how do you guys get over someone? Like forget they exist altogether, because this is ****ing my life over. Please Help
LucreziaBorgia Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 Time, no contact at all, and acceptance that you will never be with that person. The no contact thing has to be permanent too: unrequited love will always haunt you as long as that person is even near the radar. I was in the same boat, actually. Fell in love with a guy who loved my company but would never feel 'that way' about me. We spent many times together - days, nights, weekends only as friends though. Nothing sexual ever happened. But that kept me steeped in the false hope and wishful thinking that it could be more between us. Years pass. More years. Still keeping up sporadic contact with him, through the milestones of my life - he was always there in the background. Finally two years ago, I let him go completely - complete no contact. I did not see him, contact him, nada and I was fine - I accepted it finally. Until recently. I got a friend request from him, and stupidly accepted it. Looking at his page brought it all back, and on top of that I had to read how in love he is, how happy he is, etc. I truly am happy for him, and this girl is perfect for him - but... it hurts as much as it ever did. Plunged me right back into the misery I always had over the situation, and it is as fresh now as it was years ago when I first fell for him. Don't make the mistake with this girl. The only way to let her go, is to actually let her go. Move on and don't look back, no matter how tempting it may be.
Trialbyfire Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 Okay, I have to state one thing. No one is out of anyone's league. I simply don't believe in leagues. Don't live your life with regrets. Man up and ask her out. No stalking though... If she doesn't accept, this will be your indicator that it's time to move on. If she's nasty about it, you know that she's a lesser person and you were the lucky one to have escaped.
Author repax Posted July 1, 2007 Author Posted July 1, 2007 Thanks for the advice guys. turns out I just needed some air about the whole matter. Thanks
Tranzphasic0 Posted July 1, 2007 Posted July 1, 2007 i think you should ask her out too. because no one is out of your league. youre da man, you rock and you can go out with anyone! if she says no its her loss and she will end up with some loser. yeah
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