Kelso Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 Last night... Last October - She broke it off. Typical reasons,: "I don't want a relationship, It's me not you, I care about you a lot, Let's be friends". Well, I walked out and never turned back. Still, I was devastated. First months were worst and I wasn't like myself again until new years. For about 4-5 months I kept focusing on all the bad things about the relationship we had. Actually, there were no bad things, except she had a sister. Her sister is generally a nice person ... a nice person who didn't want me in their life. Example: Me and my ex watching a movie. Could not do that without her being annoying in the other half of the sofa. Sex was a difficult issue (not for me though), because her sister didn't want me to spend nights at their place and at the time I was living with my parents. Well - enough about the past. Last night I was walking with a friend (and his pregnant sober gf) in the pub district. Who did I meet...of course my ex and her sister...for the first time since I left her apartment back in October. We had a nice chat and when she left - after having asked me and my group if we wanted to go there. She also told me that she was going on this camping trip next week....to the same small festival as I had planned to go to. I just don't know what is happening here!!! I though I was far over this girl. Yet I couldn't sleep anymore...I was wasted last night and now I wake up (8 o'clock AM where I live) and I have something a size of a football in my stomach and I want to call her and meet her again. I'm desperate for a girl on my life these days. All of my friends are expecting babies and as you could read above ... I can't even have a drink with my best friend without his 6 months pregnant girlfriend is sitting on is shoulder like a parrot - in a pub at 3 o'clock in the night. I barely don't have any friends left I can talk to!!! I sometimes just wanna pick up all of my stuff and just leave and go somewhere far far away. And not answering their phone calls when they need to borrow my gold clubs to go golfing with their father-in-laws. Can someone please tell my why I shouldn't call my ex and give it another try. Even though I've spent 4 months of my life telling myself that she's not the right person for me right now.
London Girl Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 sorry to hear you going through so such pain Kelso. I too, like you wish I could pack my bags and go far away but I realise that will not solve the problem. I travelled to Cuba to get away for two weeks which is 12 hours from England but I was still upset when on holiday. I think for you bumping into your ex again brought back the hurt and memories. It is still early days since your break up and I don't think it is a good idea for you to call your ex to see if she wants to try again. She left you and if there's any reconcillation, she need's to be the one to instigate it. In the meantime, you need to concentrate on yourself, building up your self esteem and realise you are a good catch and if your ex cannot realise that then that is their problem and loss. It is hard, I miss my ex terribly but he does not want to be with me so I need to leave him be. I've been in no contact now for just over 3 months and the pain is still so fresh but there is nothing we can do to bring an ex back unless they want to. Chasing them is not a good idea. We are the ones that will keep getting hurt.
Author Kelso Posted July 1, 2007 Author Posted July 1, 2007 Thanks a lot for your advice London Girl! Well...last night...I met her for the first time in 8 months. Tonight I met her for the second time in 8 months. I cannot believe this happened. I'm drunk now so this is it for tonight....but more to follow tomorrow morning!!
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