mountain girl Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 No, not a D-day anniversary. Our wedding anniversary. Let's just say its more than 25. We've made no plans. Can't really afford to do anything special. But I guess I am just kinda sad and depressed today thinking about it. I know we should probably make some happy go lucky plans and have a good time but how can I? Back when we were getting ready to celebrate our 10th...he made plans to take his cute blonde german intern to a big city to look at architecture. I threw a fit and our argument eventually resulted in his breaking his hand punching the wall . And back in late March his little EA (she boosts his ego...she is smart...they have a lot in common...she is attractive...he'd like to go after her if he weren't married)... I'm just feeling sad... I know there are lots of words of wisdom...but I'd just like to hear some stories on how you might have handled anniversaries.
silktricks Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 No, not a D-day anniversary. Our wedding anniversary. Let's just say its more than 25. We've made no plans. Can't really afford to do anything special. {snip} Back when we were getting ready to celebrate our 10th...he made plans to take his cute blonde german intern to a big city to look at architecture. I threw a fit and our argument eventually resulted in his breaking his hand punching the wall . HuH??? And back in late March his little EA (she boosts his ego...she is smart...they have a lot in common...she is attractive...he'd like to go after her if he weren't married)... I'm just feeling sad... I guess you two are still together, so how is he acting about what he did?? Is he working on the marriage, or just working on his ego? I know there are lots of words of wisdom...but I'd just like to hear some stories on how you might have handled anniversaries. For our first anniversary after the EA, my H made all the plans. He took me to a waterfront hotel, bought champagne, took me to the best restaurant in town, the whole thing. He wanted us to take a cruise, but since he took me on two cruises DURING his EA, I just wasn't up for it, ya know??? I honestly don't remember what we did last year, I think it was dinner and a movie (and he bought me some nice clothes). This year we're going to a special fireworks presentation with a buffet dinner, then we're going on a fishing/wine tasting trip. Fishing for him, wine for me. The first year I think was more symbolism than anything. I was dumbstruck in pain and he was reeling from the shock of actually seeing his own behavior - he wasn't used to seeing himself as the bad guy, and didn't like it at all. It wasn't particularly enjoyable, but it made me feel better that he wanted to do something really special for us. Since then, our anniversary has probably been a bigger day for us than our birthdays, and maybe even more than Xmas in some ways.
IfWishesWereHorses Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 The first year after D day, I got a Jag. The second more pomp and circumstance a stomach of steel could handle. A lot of effort and cash but everything was tangible and noticable, a virtual production, I was kind and tactful but down right destroyed. :sick:
Crimson107 Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 Our first anniversary was awkward. I was barely employed and it was the day after Christmas. We got tickets to disney for our family so we went there. We spent our 10th anniversary celebrating our kids. I am so ashamed. I've got so much to make up to her and I don't if I will ever do a good job. She doesn't have to worry about being lavished with gifts. But then I am also struggling with the small stuff. I did get valentines day a little better. . .
LakesideDream Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 Anniversary's can be daunting. During my 25 year marriage I alway tried to make them special. One year when the kids were young and money was tight, I went to a sports trophy shop, the kind that makes their own and ordered a wooden heart with a brass plaque that said "To the best wife in the World". $30.00. Ten years later when things were much better I had a custom diamond cocktail ring made for her.. stunning. Though divorced for 7 years, she still has both items. I also remember being in a panic after D-day wondering how I'd feel on our anniversary. On the day it slipped my mind. I was home from work watching TV when it dawned on me. I went to the kitchen to grab a Scotch for a solidary toast... and ended up microwaving some cheese on nacho's.
Melissa277 Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 Our anniversary will never mean a thing to me again. I'm pretty sure H's A began a couple of weeks before our 22nd. The first anniversary after D-day was only two months later and we were separated. He sent me a card and wrote all this mushy stuff in it about how sorry he was and how much he loved me. I ripped it into about a thousand pieces and threw it in the trash. On the second anniversary after D-day, we went out for dinner ... but it was very awkward. I think from now on it will just be another day. Really, what's to celebrate?
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