prism23 Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 My boyfriend of 2.5 years dumped me suddenly almost a month ago now. Long and short of it is he is "not ready for commitment", "still loves me", needs to "start his career and sort out his life", but when he "is ready for a commitment, i can still see a future for us etc". Which I, obviously, desperatly want to be true/to happen. However, despite those feelings (and the fact that I honestly see it as a possibility - when my ex of 3+ years and I broke up, I never saw that as a possibility because we had become different people and just didn't "click" anymore). My recent-ex and I still click, still get along great, etc... It was a combination of (for the next few years) us being in different places (both distance wise and life-wise, I am getting a second degree and he is starting his career). Anyways. I was (and still am) finding letting go very challenging... I am on Day 2 of NC right now as I finally decided that, yeah if things work out that's awesome, but I can't wait. I told the whole world I wasn't planning on it... but deep down, I think a little voice was hanging on. I found a quote I found very very inspiring and helpful, and I wanted to share: “I loved him. He needed time to think and that was ok- he was worth waiting for... and waiting for... and waiting for. Finally I realized I had waited away my life for an answer he had already given me: Had he loved me back, I would not have had to wait.” --Anon.
selarom Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 Great quote. For over the past month or so, I've been trying to reconcile thoughts similar to that quote with the old "if you love something set it free and if its real love it will come back". I'm beginning to think the "set it free" is a bunch of sentimental B.S. invented by dumpers to let dumpees down easy. I can relate to your quote a lot easier.
funkybassplayer Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 I was having a hard time letting go of my ex (she dumped me and met someone else a week later) but in my last chat with her, I said that i love her enough to let her go, and i havent spoke to her since! Although she dumped me, i still had to tell her that im letting go of her.............f.....k know why, but it did kind of help me.
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