buzzie2 Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 everyone tells me that if a guy really liked me he'd ask me out, but isn't it possible that he does like me but is afraid of rejection or getting hurt? maybe he's waiting for me to make the first move.
fray718 Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 95% of the time if a guy likes you enough he'd risk rejection and getting hurt for you. If he doesn't ask you out, don't fret about it. If it's meant to be, it will happen. If not, it's just not meant to be.
ddnnee Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 in otherwords, do nothing as you have done so far. yea, just sit there and wait for him to do the first move. if he REALLY likes you, he will ask you out. wow i feel so stupid after saying that.
Krytellan Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 Or, you could choose to actually have control in your own life and ask him out. That way rather than spending the next two weeks thinking "Ooh, I wonder if he likes me... why doesn't he ask me out" you could just find out today. Your choice though.
directx Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 95% of the time if a guy likes you enough he'd risk rejection and getting hurt for you. If he doesn't ask you out, don't fret about it. If it's meant to be, it will happen. If not, it's just not meant to be. I totally disagree with this. This doesnt even take into account if he is just shy, the type that overthinks, or just got really run over the coals by real jerk women in the past. If YOU are not going to ask him out, then just make it real clear to him that you are single. You know, I think the best strategy is to exchange numbers and give him a call and just talk. If something clicks, a date will come naturally.
Lizzie60 Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 everyone tells me that if a guy really liked me he'd ask me out, but isn't it possible that he does like me but is afraid of rejection or getting hurt? maybe he's waiting for me to make the first move. That he is totally in love with you but for some reason, cannot get himself to ask you out... everything is possible... but if YOU are interested in this guy why don't you 'help him out' and ask him out. Who said women are not allowed to ask men out????? Come on... you can do this, if you want this guy... if you have a good vibe then who knows...
JulieJ Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 Give him a few hints to let him know that you are interested and see what happens. I think that guys generally go after something they want, but if he is shy it might be hard for him, so give him some encouragement
Trialbyfire Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 I don't know if you want to ask him out. What do you want for the future? A man or a mouse? If you're comfortable with a timid guy, then ask him out.
monkey00 Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 there are a lot of guys out there who are just shy...they're just really good at masking their interest.
LoveLace Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 Or, you could choose to actually have control in your own life and ask him out. That way rather than spending the next two weeks thinking "Ooh, I wonder if he likes me... why doesn't he ask me out" you could just find out today. Your choice though. I agree with this totally.
cuteblondegurl Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 There is absolutely nothing wrong with asking a guy out. There are some men that are somewhat shy.
Trialbyfire Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 There are a ton of men out there ladies. Don't sell yourself short... I'm not certain about you girls but I don't find shy men very attractive. It tends to go hand-in-hand with the doormat syndrome. Of course this isn't always.
chryssy83 Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 I've never had things work out at all with a guy I asked out. Of course, there have been some guys where I had to do some SERIOUS encouraging.
Krytellan Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 I've never had things work out at all with a guy I asked out. Of course, there have been some guys where I had to do some SERIOUS encouraging. You know that's not a very good argument right? I have 6 failed long-term relationships in the last 13 years that I initiated. Does that mean I should stop asking women out? Hardly.
chryssy83 Posted July 1, 2007 Posted July 1, 2007 I don't actually think it's a terrible argument. Presumably one of the girls you asked out in your lifetime wanted to see you again after the first date?? That's what I mean by didn't work out.....like total miserable failure. On the other hand, when guys have asked me out there was almost always a second date, and several led to relationships. That's all I meant... And no, I don't think you should stop asking people out. I'm just not sure how much guys like to be pursued, and from my own experiences it appears that guys I asked lost interest much sooner than guys who asked me. Personal observation, that's all.
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