larrysb Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 I've been talkin to this chick for awhile. I know she likes me and I like her. We saw a movie about a week ago together when a friend of mine came with us (his g/f was at a family thing), our first date and then hung out alone for awhile after. Just the other night was our second date. I had planned to go out to dinner and then be alone w/ her at this park for our first kiss and everything. But then her best friend calls and she HAS to see her. We ended up driving over there, she introduces me and they talk about w/e. She ends up coming with us and I kinda stand off to the side listening to their conversation. I try to show some interest and put my arm around her when we find a place to sit, but her friend just keeps talking. Eventually we drive back to the chick's house to drop her friend off, who is now spending the night at her house. Then we head to another park for awhile. I was feeling pretty mad at the whole thing, but I didn't want to act like an ass because she hadn't seen this friend in a long time and she means a lot to her. We held hands and walked around for awhile, then sat and I had my arm around her, but I wasn't feeling like I wanted to do that first kiss. I felt kinda bad, I could tell she was a little antsy. She had to be home on a curfew for her parents and we ended up just hugging and I told her I'd talk to her tomorrow. I called her today and said I thought it was just going to be me and her and I didn't get to do "everything" I wanted to do. She said she felt bad and was sorry. I went on saying it was nice meeting her friends but i though it was just gonna be us. Kinda talked a little more, I didn't want to get to angry at her. She said she would call me later but I told her I didn't think I could do anything for a few days. I really like this girl but I just wasnt feeling that moment for the first kiss. How can I repair this situation? -Larry, 16, Missouri
Kelso Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Dude!!! There is nothing there to repair!! It seems to me that everything is going really great between you two. It doesn't matter that you two couldn't kiss on the first date. Just be careful not to get angry at her ... it wasn't her fault. If she likes you too, she probably is sorry. Just call her tomorrow night or early on Saturday and ask her out on a date. There are plenty of things you could do. You could cook for her. But I see that you are 16 yrs old - and probably don't have your own kitchen. You could get your friends and their gf's together and have a BBQ or something. If you go for a group thing, just make sure you can take her away. You don't wanna do the first kiss in front of 15 people. And first of all...relax. It is supposed to be a chase, and you must have fun while chasing. In my example with my ... well, she's my ex now ... It took me about 4-5 weeks to get the first kiss. I had slept in her sofa, I had her falling asleep in my arms while driving with friends and I even had the opportunity on a ferris wheel. One night, we both were drunk at a bar. I was sitting in a chair. I saw her walking up to me and I asked her "Hey, what's up". She simply said: "Shut up". Sat on my thighs and started kissing me. I didn't know what was happening. Had been dreaming of this too long but was afraid to do anything. It was the best night of my life so far and I probably will never forget this first kiss with this girl ... even though she's my ex now. But like I said. You don't have to fix anything. It's a chase ... and your just few steps behind
cuteblondegurl Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 I think you need to be patient and the first kiss will happen when you least expect it. There is no set timeline for that first kiss. I waited three months for my first kiss with my current guy.
dbtmarley Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 As the others have said, just relax and let things happen. Kudos to you for not acting out about the friend.
JulieJ Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Call her and ask her out again. I don't think that this is a situation that needs "repairing." Since she is the girl, she is probably waiting for you to make the next move. And the first kiss will happen when it is appropriate, don't worry about it
Krytellan Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 You got good advice here. But I would recommend dumping the word "chick" and never using it again. Women don't like to be called chicks.
Author larrysb Posted June 30, 2007 Author Posted June 30, 2007 I called her back later asking if I upset her, because I had seen her again that night while I was out at this pool and she was pretty quiet when we talked. She said it was okay and she understood and she felt bad. But i insisted I shouldn't have even said anything. Today I saw her at the pool again when I was stopping by to see a friend. She was talking with another girl and ignored me until I went over there. She kept walking away occasionally and then I went back to talking to my friend. Then I went over to talk w/ her more before I left and she began to flirt in front of me w/ my other friend. She wasn't really paying any attention to me or anything. Usually we would hug before we part, but when she went back over to talk to her friend, I just left. Although, she did say bye to me on my way out, as did her friend.....
veronicasky Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 I think you need to be patient and the first kiss will happen when you least expect it. There is no set timeline for that first kiss. I waited three months for my first kiss with my current guy. 3 months is a loooooooooong time!
Star Gazer Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 You got good advice here. But I would recommend dumping the word "chick" and never using it again. Women don't like to be called chicks. I was going to say the same exact thing!!
Author larrysb Posted July 2, 2007 Author Posted July 2, 2007 I just found out from her friend that this girl I've been seeing thought I was kinda a jerk that night. Because I wasn't acting myself, with her friend there. Her friend said she was sorry for intruding on our date and I said, "Yeah, you kinda did." in a joking manner, but I guess they both took it seriously.... I've called her last night and tonight and she wasn't home. Just a week ago she was head over heels for me. Now, she seems to be ignoring me or shying away from any move I make to talk to her. I need help. >_< I really like this girl and I know she really liked me. But because of a stupid thing I said, she seems to be having second thoughts about us.
dbtmarley Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 I just found out from her friend that this girl I've been seeing thought I was kinda a jerk that night. Because I wasn't acting myself, with her friend there. Her friend said she was sorry for intruding on our date and I said, "Yeah, you kinda did." in a joking manner, but I guess they both took it seriously.... I've called her last night and tonight and she wasn't home. Just a week ago she was head over heels for me. Now, she seems to be ignoring me or shying away from any move I make to talk to her. I need help. >_< I really like this girl and I know she really liked me. But because of a stupid thing I said, she seems to be having second thoughts about us. I would back off a little. Start talking to other people because you two do not have anything exclusive it seems. I know you really like this girl, but trust by the time you are 18 you are going to have liked lots of girls. If she is having second thoughts you pretty much blew your chance at this stage of the game.
Author larrysb Posted July 2, 2007 Author Posted July 2, 2007 It's all cool now. She's way too immature for me anyway. Doesn't know what she's doing.
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