Matt999 Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 My girlfriend is now 7 months pregnant and I'm pretty sure it's my child but she denies it. We split when I got sent to jail. That was in February and I'm out a little while now. She didn't come and visit and I knew she wasn't going to stay with me. She had told me to stay away from her when I got out and I did but I now know she is pregnant and the dates would be back in December when we were still together. I know she could have been cheating but I just don't think so. I think her parents convinced her to start again while I was in jail and that's what happening. If it is my child, it is part of me, and I think that now matter what I have a right to be it's Dad. I feel like going and having it out with her but I know I could end up getting in more trouble if I do that. I just feel so angry taht she is doing this just to get back at me. I know I probably need to know the legal stuff but I haven't really got the money for that. Even if we're not together any more I still think I shuld know if it is my child and have contact with it. I don't think I'm being unfair about it. What would people think about this situation and what I can do?
WarriorPoet Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 There are places you can go to get free legal consultation. Especially if you can prove you are below a certain income level. You can do google searches to find this information, or even call a legal firm and ask about thier services, then ask if they know of a service that is discounted or free. However, alot of firms will do a initial consult for free. Of course they have to be interested in the case and belive there is a chance of you working with them. It is kinda unbeleive able that she would lie about who the father is. She would lack your personal and financial support, and at some point the child will want to know who its father is. If she is keeping that information from the child I would imagine she would feel an awful lot of guilt. She could be telling you it is not your child because she wants to wait until she can have a paternity test done to make sure it is yours. This is a pretty %$^&* circumstance for men. There arn't many options for us and women have done this sort of thing before. Women are very vocal when they want our heip with this issue, but whne they don't we just get the shaft. INMO, if a man can prove that there was consentual intercourse durring the conception dates, we should be able to force the woman to get and reviel the resluts of a test. there has even been talk of men giving dna samples to doctors/hospitals and having the man contacted if there is a match dispite the woman's feelings. In any case I don't think youur chances are very good here.
Author Matt999 Posted June 29, 2007 Author Posted June 29, 2007 Yeah ther's not so much I can do. To be honest I think it's probably the jail thing. Once I got sentenced she pretty much cut me off and I think her parents influenced her to split up with me. That was hard to take. She's probably been told that I would be no good for the kid - I'm not back working full time yet. It's pretty rough alright when I'm almost convinced it's mine but I'll check out the legal stuff next week.
crzyblndstar Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 First, there is not much you can do until the baby is actually born. After that, you can got to your county child support division (whatever deals with visitation and such) and file to establish paternity. Once you find out and if the baby is yours, you can file for visitation and child support. Hope this helps you.
Star Gazer Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 There are places you can go to get free legal consultation. Especially if you can prove you are below a certain income level. Also try local law schools. Many have legal clinics run by student attorneys who handle cases as part of their curriculum (don't worry, they are supervised by practicing attorneys) and represent indigent or low-income level clients for free in matters such as these.
Enema Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 I just feel so angry taht she is doing this just to get back at me. She's not. You are obviously someone she doesn't want in her life or as in influence on her kid. She's doing the best for herself, it has nothing to do with "getting back at you".
a4a Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 Well you best go get a job and start putting money away for child support. Guess what...... if you claim this kid through the system, you are going to pay. You could also be paying for her medical care while pregnant... if she is on any assistance the state likely will expect you to pay pay pay. Interesting that you said you were thinking about "having it out with her"..... is that something a good father would want to do with a woman that is carrying his child? I would not only seek legal help but also some therapy...... which is also free in many cases. Curious what were the charges you were jailed for? That of course would make any advice given here sway to either side.
Author Matt999 Posted July 2, 2007 Author Posted July 2, 2007 When I said 'having it out with her' I meant just talking it through and trying to get definite answers nothing else. I was in jail for assault - not on her of course - but due to a fight that went a bit too far. I'm not proud of that and don't think I'll end up in that situation again. I know that after the baby is born I can get things sorted out and hope things will have worked out with a proper job and that by then but it's weird thinking you may have a child on the way but not knowing for sure.
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