Ela2422 Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 My friend introduced me to this guy and we hit it off really well. We talked on the phone everyday for about two weeks and we finally went on our first date. It turned out to be amazing and slowly i began to develop feelings for him. Unfortunately, i recently made the mistake of sleeping with him, and I found out that all i am to him is a hook up. So eventually i gave up and we became friends with benefits but my feelings are still there. I tried not talking to him for a while, but at least he tries to talk to me and doesn't just use me for the sex. He reacts weird when i joke around saying that all we are is friends with benefits. He also likes to chill with me even where there isn't sex involved. Basically, i wanna be more than friends with him but the sex is really good. What do i do?
dvsxx6 Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 Ela2422: I've been in your situation and am actually in it right now. My opinion is to keep your options open and casually date. That way, you won't seem to be too needy or dependant on him. If that's not your style, then I think you may have to settle for FWB. It's hard because you have feelings for him, so just go with it. If the sex is good, there's no need to complain, right? just kidding. But really, if he doesn't want a relationship with you, there's nothing you can do to change his mind. You can try to talk to him about it, but from my experiences, guys don't like it when you're getting serious too soon. And I'm sure you wouldn't want to force him to be your bf. Maybe you two will remain FWB, I'm not sure. But keep us posted on how that goes. Good luck~ *DvS*
Lean On Me Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 My friend introduced me to this guy and we hit it off really well. We talked on the phone everyday for about two weeks and we finally went on our first date. It turned out to be amazing and slowly i began to develop feelings for him. Unfortunately, i recently made the mistake of sleeping with him, and I found out that all i am to him is a hook up. So eventually i gave up and we became friends with benefits but my feelings are still there. I tried not talking to him for a while, but at least he tries to talk to me and doesn't just use me for the sex. He reacts weird when i joke around saying that all we are is friends with benefits. He also likes to chill with me even where there isn't sex involved. Basically, i wanna be more than friends with him but the sex is really good. What do i do? He acts weird because he knows it is true. Don't let this guy use you. If you have love for the guy and he doesn't, guess who will be really hurt in the end? Yeap, that's right, you will.
Lean On Me Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 Oh, and btw, I know a girl that her bf told her that she is here to full fill his needs. Well, at least he was being honest, even if it didn't get him anywhere with her.
norajane Posted July 22, 2007 Posted July 22, 2007 I found out that all i am to him is a hook up. he tries to talk to me and doesn't just use me for the sex. He reacts weird when i joke around saying that all we are is friends with benefits. He also likes to chill with me even where there isn't sex involved. Does not compute...how do you know you're just a hook up if he actually pays attention to you? Is he seeing other women? Do not have FWB sex with someone if you have feelings for him. Even if the sex is good, you have to give it up, because you will not be able to control your feelings from developing and you will get hurt when he drops you for a girlfriend.
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