VegasGurl Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 Hi, this is my first post. As the title said, he walked out on Mother's Day. My husband of 13 years said that he wasn't happy and didn't feel like he loved me anymore. This totally blindsided me! I thought everything was going well with us.The last 4 years have been a little rough with my health but things were finally turning around! Four years ago I found out my kidney's had failed and I started dialysis. Then two years ago I got the flesh eating bacteria on my right foot and ankle and ended up having a total of 11 surgeries to correct the damage the disease caused. This included a month long stay in the hospital! It seemed to be healing well and I was ready to put it behind us when I got the same thing on my left foot! This time I caught it earlier and only got a small patch on my foot which only required 4 surgeries. While I was in the hospital after one of my surgeries my knee swelled up and they found out that I had a bad infection in it and also torn ligaments! Which ment knee surgery. My foot was healing and so was my knee. I was stuck in a wheel chair but getting better. Then my knee swelled up again and I found out the infection was back! More surgery! During all of this my husband was loving and supportive. He was the one I turned to when I felt down. Finally, March 2007, I was out of the wheelchair and walking and driving again. Then in April I ended up having gallbladder surgery and having it removed. Then came May and he left. Now I feel lost and alone. He really was my best friend and I don't know what to do. He said he still wants to be friends and be amicable for our son's sake. I really want to try to do this but it breaks my heart any time I see him. I am still in love with him and want him to come home. I pick up my phone a hundred times a day wanting to talk to my best friend but when we do talk, it's stained, like talking to a stranger! I am so confused! Help! I feel like I'm losing my mind!
LakesideDream Posted June 30, 2007 Posted June 30, 2007 Your health made things "a little rough". That's kinda like a weather report before Katrina that read, expect light winds. I can't remember if the two of you have kids. They will end up the big loser if you stay split. Sounds like your husband just ran out of gas. Seems like an honerable guy at least, staying through the catastrophies, but couldn't hang for the long run.
Melovator Posted July 1, 2007 Posted July 1, 2007 Then came May and he left. Now I feel lost and alone. He really was my best friend and I don't know what to do. He said he still wants to be friends and be amicable for our son's sake. I really want to try to do this but it breaks my heart any time I see him. I am still in love with him and want him to come home. I pick up my phone a hundred times a day wanting to talk to my best friend but when we do talk, it's stained, like talking to a stranger! I am so confused! Help! I feel like I'm losing my mind! You are not losing your mind, I understand how you feel though my circumstances are different. I found that stopping calling him helped as did keeping contact for a minimum. He might want to be friends but you're probably hurting too much for that right now from what you've written. I am still in love with my ex and it does hurt every time I see him, so I'm trying not to see him as much as humanly possible when there is a child involved. You've been through a lot in the last four years, have you been getting counselling? It might help to talk to a professional who can tell you for certain that you're not losing it, you're having a normal reaction to a f**ked up situation.
anna13 Posted July 2, 2007 Posted July 2, 2007 Your health made things "a little rough". That's kinda like a weather report before Katrina that read, expect light winds. I can't remember if the two of you have kids. They will end up the big loser if you stay split. Sounds like your husband just ran out of gas. Seems like an honerable guy at least, staying through the catastrophies, but couldn't hang for the long run. that makes sense, that wasnt the first thing that popped into my head but the man did do alot . but i dont think he is some hero. leaving on a holiday and without any warning is a bit looserish. sounds like he just thought to himself well i got bigger and better things to do. original poster... i am sorry that you went through all of that medical issues. i cant imagine . your not going crazy , someone who was your rock just dropped you. i know the feeling. my husband did this to me too, and may unfortunately do it again. it really hurts , but at least your husband says he still wants to be friends. in other words he wants to be part of your life . that is good . I just hope he doesnt have an attitude like he is doing you a favor .cause that would mean he was a jerk. when things get hard, and no matter how much it hurts , i always think of what my friend said to me ... which is no matter what life does move on . it will for you , and the pain will lesson over time . we as humans are such social creatures. we really need other people in our lives to share and be with . we dont know how fragile we can be when it comes to heartachce. just hang in there. try to think as positively as posible. (((hugs))).
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