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My ex boyfriend of two years broke up with me two weeks ago. He met a girl at a social, and he left me for her. He said he didn't want to marry the first girl he dates, and said sometimes he sees me more as a friend.

 

So i cried, and got angry for those two weeks. Tonight on tuesday i was doing fine, when he called. His new gf never had planned on coming to a concert, and his friend had to back out of it at the last minute. So he called me but said "just as friends", I asked if it would be awkward, and he said "no not for me." I asked if his parents would be okay with it, and he said "why wouldn't they." So i said yes, he spent $150 each on the tickets, and i had been looking forward to seeing the act since he asked me in March.

 

He then said i can come over to his parents house for dinner, but i declined, saying i would be at his parents house at 6:30.

 

So my question is, did i do the right thing? is it possible to be "just friends" with an ex, (i would take him back in a heartbeat if he admitted his mistake), what do we talk about? Can i ask about his new gf? someone he is apprently really happy with?

 

I've been shaking for the past little bit. After the concert, and we drive off, will i never see him again. I know i'm helping him out, but will he ever call and say "hey buddy lets go see a movie."

 

I was thinking of giving him the N/C for a couple months, but that went down the drain. :oAnd after this concert, do i have to start talking to him, when i see him shop at my work. Can i go back to N/C?

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It doesnt make much sense to me. I think its hard to go to a show with an ex-boyfriend as friends only if you're still romantically attached to him in some way. Only if you can accept the fact that hes just a friend will it be right. Can you do that?

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You both sound very young. BF/GF type relationships are not the same as long term relationships or marriage.

 

Young people act on "crushes" all the time. Techniques like NC are less relevant for younger people. If a young person stops dating one person and starts dating another it's nature, not malice.

 

Don't be so "adult" about everything. There is plenty of time for that. Have fun, hang out if you want. Maybe the romance will rekindle. How can you find out if you are deep in the throws of maryterdom and NC?

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He's 24, and i'm 20. But you are very right about just going for it. I'm not going to bring up the gf, and i'm going to have fun.

 

thanks guys.

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Well we went to the concert had a great time. I kept my composure and was friendly to his parents and him.

 

After though, he said he had something for me. I went with him to his car, and he said its something for me to read. So i waited until i got home, and it turns out the two pages and explaining my depature for a guild in World of Warcraft. He has put point blank in the post " I had intended to make the split for permanent, because i have plans to go with another girl." "When and if she gets over her grieving process" and "I will try my best as she is a very nice girl and a friend, but i just cannot see myself spending the rest of my life with her."

 

Why would someone be that cold, and rude, especically when he wanted to still be friends. Was it to know how much i meant to my guild? Or did he want me to know it was over for good?

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