rose45 Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 my b/f fixes things for a living--i dont wanna get too specific..i recently checked the contacts in his phone and saw a girls name..a new girl..which i thought was odd..so i tried to bring it up and ask him directly..casually going through the pics of his phone in front of him and then his contacts and then i asked who is this..and he said oh its a so and so customer..you can delete it..i dont need it..it was weeks ago..i dont understand why he could the girls name in his phone or even place it there..the other thing is..after seeing this girls number--i actually called it from a private number and she sounded really young--even my friend agreed...and my b.f was giving me a story that she is 50 years old etc etc..i did delete--BUT you know--sometimes the best way to keep things a secret is to keep it out in the open..also he could have the number somewhere else or memorized..im not sure what to think..both me and my 2 friends says she sounds like 19 or even in their 20's tops..and my told me she is in her 50's...am i being too paranoid here? my one friend says it sounds a bit weird.
Author rose45 Posted June 27, 2007 Author Posted June 27, 2007 lets say my b/f's name is tom..my friend called it a few days ago and the girl answered hello, tomey? before my friend got to say anything.
Author rose45 Posted June 27, 2007 Author Posted June 27, 2007 i should have waited longer to call a few days ago b/c i dont know if she said no to this b/c she was annoyed or it was the truth--i asked her was so and so fixed recently..she said what? i then said sorry maybe i have the wrong number, was this fixed recently? she said no and hung up which made me very upset thinking he lied. My friend called up asking for tomey and the girl said he is not here, i dont know why you are calling this number. My friend then said oh im sorry this isnt a house phone, are you his mom? she then said no(so this tomey she asked for is not her son) and my friend said so a tomey is not there? and the girl said tomey doesnt live here, i dont know how you got this number and my friend said does his last name begin with a co or coa(similiar to my b/f's last name) and she didnt answer right away but said i dont think so. It made me and my friend believe she possibly doesnt know my b/f. My friend said if you waited awhile and asked once again if this was fixed and she says no--then my b/f was probably lying about something..
Lynna Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 Rose, it is possible that there is something going on, but I would not have your friend call that number any more. If there is something going on, you are not going to learn much and you will just make her suspicious and she will then tell him that she thinks you are on to them. Then he will be more careful not to be caught. Had he had any behavior other than this phone number that makes you suspicious? Many people will save numbers on their phone so that they don't loose them, then they delete them when they don't need them any more. So that in itself is not necessarily a bad thing. I do that myself, especially when I don't have paper handy. It is also possible that older people have young sounding voices, though admittedly answering with Tommy indicates that she knows the number and knows him pretty well. Watch for other behavior that seems off. Does he go out alone more than he used to, is he working longer hours than he used to? Things like that. While it is possible something is going on, you need more evidence.
a4a Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 Rose you can search for the persons location online...... many search engines available for that. By name or phone number. You can also get a sat. image of her home likely..... and if it is cars he fixed most tax records are online that would state what kind of vehicle she drives - in some states this is available. So enough of the paranoia tips - better yet: Now if this is a client of his and you are calling... asking if 'this was fixed' - do you realize you are screwing with your bf's income? To call a customer of his and do this is very improper and it will end up biting you directly in the butt. If you don't trust him - you should not be with him. You have no right at all to be calling his clients.
EnigmasMuse Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 rose, it could be anything, but I think my question is, I have read other posts of yours before concerning your b/f, and I have to wonder why you're still with him? Most of your other posts are about you being suspicious of him too. You have been suspcious of him for a while now, it doesn't sound healthy.
Author rose45 Posted June 27, 2007 Author Posted June 27, 2007 hey guys, well first off..once he is done with the customer--he is done..he doesnt have further contact with them. The company gives him the information of where he needs to go etc. I wish i could get info on it--but this number is a cell phone number, not a house number. Do i let this go now? Do you think its possible she would say no if i called up saying im from so and so asking how it has been working since fixed recently even though it was fixed? i would think a person would just yeah it was fixed and thats it if its true rather than no....
Author rose45 Posted June 28, 2007 Author Posted June 28, 2007 i really need advice..i feel scared/sad/angry..
LakesideDream Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 The answer is the same on this thread as it is on the duplicate cheating thread. Get professional psycological help for yourself. You paranoid behavior could cost you "BF" his job, (carear?) and you your sanity. You may think you are "scared/sad/angry" when in reality you are just plain ol scary!
Author rose45 Posted June 28, 2007 Author Posted June 28, 2007 alot of things with this situation are not adding up so sorry if i cant let go of it.
LakesideDream Posted June 28, 2007 Posted June 28, 2007 Here's an idea that make the whole thing "add up" You and your GF's are actually thirteen. The young man you fantasize is your BF is actually your older brothers best buddy. You and your GF's got ahold of his phone and are "crank calling" the number you found there. Take a close look...... the above would turn both your duplicated threads into something approaching believability. Regardless. You have absolutely no right to be doing the ****e you are doing. Stop, and try to get your life on track.
Author rose45 Posted June 29, 2007 Author Posted June 29, 2007 if she says no she is not a customer--isnt there something going on then? lying etc??
Lynna Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 Rose, have you considered counseling? You would be able to talk about this with someone who could give you some advice on how to deal with it, and on how to communicate with your SO.
Author rose45 Posted June 30, 2007 Author Posted June 30, 2007 i had a guy friend call asking about what was fixed and she hung up on him.
Author rose45 Posted July 2, 2007 Author Posted July 2, 2007 Is this something to let go and give the benefit of the doubt?
child_of_isis Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 The best thing to do right now is to lay low. Keep your mouth shut, your ears and eyes wide open. If he is cheating, more signs will start to show up. Google signs of cheating and watch for those. If you let him know that you are onto him, he will just hide it better....so don't say a word to him about it. When you have good solid proof, then you bust him out....but not until.
Lynna Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 i had a guy friend call asking about what was fixed and she hung up on him. You are risking getting in trouble for harrassment here. She is clearly on to you. Do NOT have anyone call that number again. As was mentioned by other posters you are risking his job if she is a valid customer. You can believe she won't call him back for work if she gets harassed afterward. She also won't recommend him to friends of hers, and recommendations are very important for a business. If there is something going on, she now knows that you are suspicious and you can believe he knows it to. Now he will be more careful about what he does. He is going to be harder to catch if anything is really going on. You need to let this go, and get some counseling. If you can't let this go then you just need to get out of this relationship.
Lezbean Posted July 3, 2007 Posted July 3, 2007 i had a guy friend call asking about what was fixed and she hung up on him. You are a selfish loon. I hope this guy dumps you before you ruin anymore of his business. Like the other posters have said....you need help. If you can't trust this poor guy, you should not be with him. Obviously you are very young and do not work for a living because you think nothing of harassing his clients and make a complete ass out of yourself. Get a life and leave this poor guy alone and his clients. It's pathetic. Sorry to be so blunt. But someone has to tell you.
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