MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 This is the first time in 2 1/2 years since my marriage ended that I have a date with someone I didn't meet on the internet. It's someone I have known for a few years, but only just began talking to casually, hello, that sort of thing. We have alot of common contacts. I told one of these contacts that I think he's kinda hot. Well, both these guys were at the same function the other night (the one I posted about not wanting to go to alone... so I went alone just ot hear the band, well it turns out to maybe have been my lucky night!) So this guy phoned me, and we are going for coffee tonight. I'm scared to death! I think now looking back, I online dated so I could make a clean escape, no attachments left. Well, this guy is different because we know alot of the same people. I know I just have to be cool, have fun, not expect anything, but still, it's scary. I hope he doesn't have high expectations either, but I always think the guys I date are going to fall in love at first sight Do I need to say anything about me possibly not being "available"? (emotinally, physically) Or just have fun... this is going to be different for me!
tanbark813 Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 Do I need to say anything about me possibly not being "available"? (emotinally, physically) Or just have fun... Just have fun. No need to bring up something like that on a first date.
alphamale Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 , but I always think the guys I date are going to fall in love at first sight are you that great? Do I need to say anything about me possibly not being "available"? no
underpants Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 That is cool, I am glad you mustered up the courage to go to that event then. I also think you should go to the meeting and just have fun. It is essentially making a new friend, that is all. I would not volunteer too much information, or bring up baggage. If he asks simply and briefly answer the personal questions, maybe in return ask him some. I would want to keep the convo light though, more about interests, hobbies, current events. Since you two are from the same place it shoudn't be so hard to find casual things to discuss. Good luck, Unders
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 26, 2007 Author Posted June 26, 2007 are you that great? I am. But then again, I don't always live in the real world in case you haven't noticed. Since you two are from the same place it shoudn't be so hard to find casual things to discuss. I really think it will be fun. He's picking me up - that's a new one for me
alphamale Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 I really think it will be fun. He's picking me up - that's a new one for me Wow! How cool....maybe he'll pay for your coffee and scone too
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 27, 2007 Author Posted June 27, 2007 Yeah and maybe afterward we'll git it on in his double-wide! Seriously, I meant usually I meet guys online from the city that's almost an hour away so I drive there and usually plan to pick a few things upmake a stop at Walmart in case I get stood up, then it wasn't for nothing. It'll be fun. He's nice. I'm cute. nuff said... for now
marlena Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 I online dated so I could make a clean escape, no attachments left. Wow, I never thought about online dating like that!! This sheds some more light onto why people choose online dating. They do not want to commit and can just disappear with their fake (usually) profiles in tow!!! How disheartening for us people who are looking for the "real" thing!! Anyway, off subject! To the OP, I'd say - simply relax and enjoy and see where it takes you! Good luck!
Author MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 27, 2007 Author Posted June 27, 2007 Marlena, I don't think that is true. I meant if you have no other connections to the person, it's easier to make a clean break. If you met someone at the bar, you may run into them if it's both your usual bar. If you meet someone through friends, you still have common friends. I believe most people are honest in their profiles and are looking for a fulfilling relationship. There are a few duds I agree. It's just when we meet, we make all the same mistakes that offline people make. make sense? My date was fun. We didn't know much about each other, and now we do.
alphamale Posted June 27, 2007 Posted June 27, 2007 I believe most people are honest in their profiles and are looking for a fulfilling relationship. that wasn't my experience in the online dating world... My date was fun. most excellent!
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