budd98 Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 If I had been dating a gal for 2 years and she recently asked for space, what should I do to make her miss me? She is beautiful, but very insecure and 25 years old. Its been a few weeks since she asked for this and we haven't been hanging out anymore. She says she wants time to hang with her friends and family. I have given it to her, but why does she call me to tell me the most random things and text me about little things that don't really matter. She knows I love her, but does this mean she may still want me back? If I ignore the texts and calls, how might she react? She still gets so mad at me if I go out or am doing something exciting
sao2 Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 Tell her that goodbye means GOODBYE. GOODBYE means no more contact. After being in a relationship with you she can't just pick and choose some aspects of the relationship to salvage and bring forth into her life. You are not a car, you are a human being.
funkybassplayer Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 I was in a relationship with a woman like that. its not inscure mate, its pure selfishness. Walk away.
Reckless Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 If I had been dating a gal for 2 years and she recently asked for space, what should I do to make her miss me? Cut of all contact; you cannot miss someone that is right there. Become totally unavailable to her texts, calls (block them), messages (don't reply) and if by chance she does get through be "dashing out the door.." to some great party (even if you have to invent the party). ...why does she call me to tell me the most random things and text me about little things that don't really matter. Because you are presently her "boyfriend in reserve" she wants to test-drive other models but still wants you in the garage as a back-up. If she disapears you might get over her and end up with someone else so she keeps the contact so you will continue to be addicted to her but she is free to 'hang out with other people' (read: see if the guy she has her eye on likes her/find a new (better) boyfriend/see if she can manage without you) ...does this mean she may still want me back? No it means like I said that she doesn't want you to go anywhere while she makes up her mind. ...If I ignore the texts and calls, how might she react? She will go apesh*t: she doesn't want you but she certainly doesn't want ANYONE ELSE to have you. If you show her that despite her anger, you will go out and get a life she will start to want you again. NOTE: You say this girl is "insecure", insecure people don't want 'space', space scares them. Insecure people may ASK for space because its something they've heard people say on TV and they figure they can use the expression to get out of a relationship. You know they don't actually want the space because a) once given it they constantly call they exs to reduce the 'space' between them because they find the space scary b) they actually want to get together with someone else, promptly handing this new guy/gal all their newly acquired space c) you never see them running around alone, fulfilled, with plenty of platonic friends enjoying ...space
LoveLace Posted June 26, 2007 Posted June 26, 2007 If you want her to miss you, all you can do is give her what she's asking for. She will either miss you or she won't. And it's hipocritical for her to get mad at you for having your own life...she's just irritated because by doing fun things it sounds like you've moved on already. No need to ignore her calls, just tell her not to call again until she knows what she really wants, or until she's ready to sit down and really talk. But if she's too insecure, she shouldn't date at all until that improves, which can't happen without her own effort to do so.
ClearFocus Posted June 29, 2007 Posted June 29, 2007 I can relate 100% to what your going thru.. They feed you wiv just enough contact to keep u hanging on tht there might be hope just in case her plans fall thru. By ignoring them and not responding to their supposedly 'innocent friendly texts' they will in my experience 'lose it' and try and play some kinda guilt trip on you.. This is just them feeling like they are losing the control they once had.
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