Married as a rebond....getting divorce, having sex...any chance of happiness?

[princess75]

Hi, I did not realize I married my stbx while he was on a rebound with his ex wife. We met, fell in love and 5 months down the road married. I realized 2 days b4 the wedding he was not over his ex. Let me ask you, now 1 year later we are divorcing....he basically interacts with me many times as if I am his enemy....like projects his fears and issues she had with her on me.

Has called me her name, has mentioned her all many times.

Well...picking up myself I challenged to try to give me100% ...but not there..1 year later we are divorcing.

Now he thinks I am like an enemy..but we still are having SEX. Is there a chance he can see me as me and not as the shadow of his ex wife?

[azianpride143]

They say from one frying pan to the next. It's a sad consequence since he has not gotten over his previous marriage. I would suggest some counselling for both of you. IC would also help him tremendously since he still has some issues left from his last relationship. That's if the marriage can still be saved. Both parties need to make it work, not just you.

[Bree]

Don't be little yourself by haveing sex with him. I know you love him, but don't keep giving to someone who doesn't want you except for sex.

[Lizzie60]

Now he thinks I am like an enemy..but we still are having SEX. Is there a chance he can see me as me and not as the shadow of his ex wife?

 

This is a very hard question for us to answer... I think that, eventhough I personally don't believe in MC, some people do and it might help... of course that if he also wants to save this marriage...

 

What's done is done... you learn from life... sometimes the hard way...

 

Good luck!